EP 24 Secret to Multi-Tasking for Busy Moms- Focusing on One Thing at a Time Can Make You Most Effective. Productivity for Homeschooling or working Moms every day planning

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EP 24 Secret to Multi-Tasking for Busy Moms- Focusing on One Thing at a Time Can Make You Most Effective. Productivity for Homeschooling or working Moms every day planning

In order to be successful at being a busy, working mom, you have to be the best at multi-tasking, right? The biggest myth in the world is that multitasking is able to occur. The reality is you cannot be efficient. You can not be safe and you can not get things done. If you think that you can multitask.

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Hey ladies, welcome back to Wholly Made Life. And today we're going to talk about something that I think almost every woman that I know really struggles with and really feels like they have to do to be successful. So if we have to do it, then I want to give us a tip or two to think about so that we can feel more successful in doing it. And that thing is multitasking and learning how to focus.

Now I will apologize ahead of time for the audio on this. Some of this is a portion of a YouTube video audio, and some of it is through a microphone. So the audio was a little bit off and there was a little bit of background noise. So I'll go ahead and apologize for that upfront. Okay. So give me grace and forgive me. Okay, ladies. All right. Let's get into today's episode today. I want to talk to you about focus. Once you're able to learn how to focus, you can be so much more productive and get so many more things done. And then success starts to come a little bit easier. First off, I want to let you know that the average number of minutes that a person can devote to a project before being interrupted or distracted is only 11 minutes. So you have 11 good minutes before you get distracted.

And once you're distracted, it takes about 23 minutes to get yourself back on track. So minor distractions, such as a click on your phone, when a text message comes through or a Facebook or email comes through on your, as you're working on something else, it can cause huge consequences for you because if you are interrupted every 11 minutes and then it, after that interruption is, is completed, then it takes 23 minutes to get back on task. You are wasting a lot of your day. So we have to learn some techniques in order to get yourself back on focus. The biggest myth in the world is that multitasking is able to occur. The reality is you cannot be efficient. You can not be safe and you can not get things done. If you think that you can multitask. Now, nothing I talk about is black and white, but to demonstrate this point, I watched a video and it was a team of basketball players wearing all white.

And there was a man on the video giving me a specific task. And the task was to count how many times the basketball players passed the ball after the video it stopped. And it said, how many passes the basketball team did? Now? The hard part was not how many passes and counting to get that correct number. The hard part was that there was actually a black Moonwalking bear. So it was a black bear like that you would see in the Tennessee mountains. And it was Moonwalking in the video, in between, on all around the players. But because the man had asked me to complete a task of counting, how many passes the basketball players made. I completely missed the black bear. That was Moonwalking through the video. So in this video he then says, so there were 33 passes, but did you see the Moonwalking bear?

So this video just demonstrates that it is really very difficult for us to be really good at two things at once. We might be good at a lot of things, but to do all of them at once is quite a challenge. And so when we think of multitasking, this is what we're talking about. It's, we're putting ourselves out there in all of these different ways at the same time. And it's really difficult for us to be successful at completing all the tasks all at once. Now, if we separate those tasks, we might be rockstars, but if we are putting all those tasks in together and trying to complete them all at once, that's when we stopped dropping those balls. Okay. So this video, and if you look for Moonwalking bear counting or basketball passes, then you might be able to find it on YouTube. It's just a YouTube video.

Okay. So basically it's easy to miss something you're not looking for is what that says. And that is so true. The Bayer was there the entire time, but what happened was you were focused on the guys and the white making passes, and you were trying to complete that task, complete that direction. And because you were focused on that, didn't see the bear. And so then when he drew your focus or your attention to the fact that there is a Moonwalking bear, you were looking for the bear and when the bear came, it was easily seen. I was actually so shocked that I rewound it to the beginning and watched it again. And even worse is that I knew that this video had a Moonwalking bear in it, because we had heard about this video in a training that I was in and they couldn't get the video to work.

So they told us there's a Moonwalking bear and most people miss it. So I thought that I could knowing that there was a Moonwalking bear going to cross the video. I could complete the task while also watching for the bear. But what I found was, even though I was trying to multitask and do both things at once, and I knew the bear was coming, I totally missed the bear because I was trying to, to also complete the task that he asked me to complete. So it just goes to show you that it is not effective to do two things at once. I mean, it's impossible for your brain to effectively focus on two things at once you think about doing an email and then maybe your husband or your child has said something to you and you're nodding your head. Yes. And then they look at you, like, do you even hear what I was saying?

And then you look up and say no, I, no, I don't. I was only half paying attention. So either you're doing both tasks, doing a mediocre or average job with either tasks, or you're doing a great job on one task and you're totally messing up the other one. So it is literally impossible to focus on two things at once. Kind of like the same thing with kind of a mindset or perspective. If you're focused on something negative, it's impossible to focus on something positive. So if you're focused on the flip side, if you're focused on something positive, then it's impossible to focus on something that's negative. So keep that in mind that if you can try to keep your one thing that you want to focus on in the forefront of your mind, that is what will get most of your attention and hopefully have the best outcomes.

So I want to give you a technique, and this is a quick technique. It's easy to use. Okay. It's called star and star means to stop think, act and review. You have the S T a R star. And so what you want to do in order to maintain your focus or refocus yourself after you've been distracted is to first stop. And then you're going to think about whatever it is that you're trying to accomplish, what the task at hand is and what you're trying to accomplish. And then during the thinking stage, you're also going to think about the plan or the strategy that you need to use to do your next action. Okay? So you're going to stop and think, and then you're going to act. And then after you take your action steps, you want to review to see if you were able to get the desired outcomes.

And if you were not able to reach the desired outcomes, then you want to go back and think about your strategy again, and make sure that the strategies that you had in place were effective in order to the outcomes that you, that you want as. So you're going to tweak this area here, as far as the actions, if you're ending up not getting the results that you want. So star, you're going to stop. You're going to pause. You're going to focus attention on the task at hand. You're going to think about what it is to be done. You're going to plan your actions and decide what to do. If the unexpected occurs, that's a good point because we all know that things are going to come up to distract us. And so when you have something unexpected, if you've already thought about it ahead of time, then you, you kind of know how to either avoid those distractions in the first place, such as turn off your email, turn off your Facebook, turn off your phone while you're completing a specific task and you won't be interrupted.

But then also you may, if you know that you have children, then you might wait until after your children are in bed. So that, that distraction is not a possibility. Okay? So if you, if you think about the unexpected or the things that could happen as well, then you're able to have a plan that might eliminate some of those distractions from happening acting is that you're going to carry out the plan task. And then the review is when you're going to verify whether or not you've got the results that you wanted. Okay? So remember guys, couple things, you can only focus on one thing at a time, if you want to be the best at what you're doing, or if you want to get the best outcomes, then focus on that one thing at a time. Stop, think about what you have to do, devise inappropriate plan, and then act on that plan and then review that plan and make sure that you got the outcomes that you desired.

I hope that tool or resource of star was helpful and don't beat yourself up. We're women. We're always wearing lots of different hats and we're having to multitask a lot of the times. So I think again, the point here is, is to just focus on what you can do to be intentional, to try to focus on important tasks in a single way, important tasks, such as when you are spending time with your kids, or when you're spending time with your husband, trying to eliminate the other distractions so that they really feel like they're important when you're having to complete important tasks. Maybe you sit down and you pay the bills, or maybe you are working from home and you have certain things that you have to do for your business. Maybe you are on the job and you have tons of things on your to-do list, organizing that to do lists so that you're able to focus on certain tasks for a certain amount of time.

Maybe you close your door to your office, turn off your ringer on your phone, turn on your voicemail, turn off your email, those kinds of things. So that you're just more intentional so that when you are able to start to work on important or crucial tasks, that you can really focus on that one thing so that you can get it done quickly. You can get done much more quickly if you're focused on it for a certain amount of time versus having lots of distractions coming in. So it's about being intentional and setting yourself up to be more successful. So hope this was helpful if it was I'd love for you to share this episode with some of your sisters so that they can have a quick tool, that they might be able to put in their tool belt to use any time that they need to.

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