Ep. 193 - The Doctor Is In Series - Shame, The Good The Bad And The Coping

The Social-Engineer Podcast

Welcome to the Social-Engineer Podcast: The Doctor Is In Series – where we will discuss understandings and developments in the field of psychology.

In today’s episode, Chris and Abbie are discussing: Shame. We will talk about how shame helps us, hinders us, why some people can deal with it and why some can’t. We’ll also discuss various coping strategies and more. [Jan 02, 2023]

00:00 – Intro

00:17 – Dr. Abbie Maroño Intro

00:55 – Intro Links

• Social-Engineer.com- http://www.social-engineer.com/
• Managed Voice Phishing- https://www.social-engineer.com/services/vishing-service/
• Managed Email Phishing- https://www.social-engineer.com/services/se-phishing-service/
• Adversarial Simulations- https://www.social-engineer.com/services/social-engineering-penetration-test/
• Social-Engineer channel on SLACK- https://social-engineering-hq.slack.com/ssb
• CLUTCH- http://www.pro-rock.com/
• org- http://www.innocentlivesfoundation.org/

03:38 – The topic of the day: Shame

05:44 – Is there a positive side to shame?

07:29 – Directed by beliefs

09:02 – Cultural differences

10:14 – Shame's functionality

11:16 – Societal stigma

12:35 – How shame can hinder

16:36 – Literal shutdown

19:30 – Emotional Blunting

22:15 – Guilt vs Shame: Sense of Self

24:14 – Those who can, cope!

26:54 – When shame is a symptom

28:09 – Finding a support network

30:03 – The "core" of shame

33:45 – The road to Mindfulness

37:20 – Environmental Shame

38:34 – Horrifically fascinating

41:06 – You have to get out there!

43:00 – Tips for our younger listeners

45:25 – Remember Pen Pals?

46:44 – Wrap Up

47:39 – Outro

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• innocentlivesfoundation.org

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