S3 Ep. 2: What's Normal Eight Years In, I'm Threatened by His Past, and Does Being Drunk Excuse Someone from Cheating?


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In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions:

1) I’m a straight woman and very happy with my partner. All is good; but, four years in I still feel intimated by his sexual past. He’s a little older than me and has had many lovers. I have only slept with one person before him (I was in a long-term relationship for many years before we met). He’s never said anything to make me feel inferior, but I sometimes feel like a dancing monkey trying to wow the crowd. I still worry I’m not hitting the bar. How can I get past this?

2) I’m trying to work out if my sex life is in trouble or not. I’ve been with my partner for eight years and am not stupid enough to expect the fireworks that were there at the start. But sex often feels like something that’s a chore to be crossed off my ‘to-do’ list. I feel bad admitting this because I know Tracey thinks women should initiate, but I leave it up to my husband to suggest sex. It’s okay when we have it, but we are guilty of doing the same thing every time. Does this sound like a sex life in trouble or the norm for a couple that's been together a long time?

3) Does being drunk excuse someone from cheating? I’ve just started seeing someone who seems nice. But the other night he went AWOL on a night out with the boys and didn’t contact me until mid-afternoon the next day. He then admitted he’d been with someone else. He basically blamed his mates for getting him so drunk that he had no idea what he was doing. I don’t know whether to give him another chance or not. He’s 54 and divorced, and I’m 48. He was single for a while before I met him.

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