ERP 342: How Love Transforms Our Nervous System — An Interview With Jessica Baum


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Relationships are the best mirror for our deepest fears and emotions. Although you may have been able to suppress these feelings as an adult, getting into a committed relationship can bring them to the surface.

Can love transform our nervous system and mend these wounds? The short answer is yes.

In this episode, Jessica Baum discusses core wounds and the emotional charge associated with that narrative. She also discusses co-regulation and interdependency and how they can be used to better understand your own and your partner's behavior.

Jessica Baum, LMHC, is the founder of the Relationship Institute of Palm Beach, providing couples therapy, family counseling, and addiction therapy in South Florida for over 10 years. She has helped thousands of clients with her unique approach to healing, the Self-full® Method. Through her sister company, Be Self-full (, Jessica offers transformational courses and online coaching services that support individuals and couples to form healthy, long-term relationships.

Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website.

In this episode

5:36 Breaking the anxious-avoidant dance in relationships: How Jessica's fascination with energy and system issues evolved.

8:01 Understanding Core Wounds: The underlying story and the energetic charge associated with it.

13:47 Understanding how your nervous system affects your relationships.

20:24 Patterns and themes: Distinguishing what is happening in the relationship from possible feelings you may have had before you met that partner.

24:50 How the nervous system responds to cues of stress and how co-regulation helps create a calm environment.

35:55 How to go from being anxious or avoidant to feeling secure.

48:12 Connect with Dr. Baum and learn more about her work.


Anxiously Attached: Becoming More Secure in Life and Love (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book)

Relationship Map To Happy, Lasting Love

Shifting Criticism For Connected Communication

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