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This podcast will help all parents with kids of all ages to learn how to decode the mysteries and challenges of being a parent in today's challenging times. We will concentrate on practical parenting approaches that you as a parent can use right away! There are tips and tricks as well as plenty of real life stories to help you see that you can make a difference in your family's life in simple yet noticeable ways. In order for your kids to change, you need to change first! The ripple effect i ...
 
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In this episode we learn how to get our kids to say “thank you” and how to help develop a general sense of appreciation for not only “things” but also training them in thankfulness which will help to promote an “attitude of gratitude”. Start Early Be Consistent Give Praise for using Thank You Use Family Meetings to Set Expectations Set up Family Th…
 
We all want our kids to grow up being kind and courteous. In this episode I talk with Teresa Ramirez, a motivational speaker and Kindness Koach. Listen to lots of fun ideas on how to promote kindness inside and outside your home. Here's some of the ideas we talk about! - Model it INSIDE your home Use Family Meetings to talk about how to be kind to …
 
This is the first podcast in a series relating to getting our kids to learn manners which are fundamental to their becoming responsible, respectful adults. Starting with Life Lessons early has the biggest impact but in this series of podcasts, whether you have a toddler or a teen, it's worth investing in their future through manners. Here are the b…
 
In this episode I interview Liz Bayardelle author of Clean Your Plate! 13 Things that Good Parents Say that Ruin Kids’ Lives. This book covers all sorts of unintended consequences that good parents say regularly like Get Straight As, Don’t Hit, Sit Still, Don’t Be a Quitter and many more. She goes into detail in all these areas and has wonderful id…
 
Some of us struggle with trying to figure out if our kids are addicted to screens. In this episode Emily Cherkin, The Screentime Consultant, and I discuss what causes screen addictions and what resources might help to determine if our kids are addicted. We also go over different levels of intervention in overcoming screen issues in our homes. Emily…
 
In this episode enjoy hearing from Emily Cherkin, The Screentime Consultant, as we talk about strategies to deal with kids and screen time use in our homes. Emily works with families all the time to help put "tech intentional" ideas into homes. Listen for ideas on how to set clear and reasonable limits in a way that can be integrated into your home…
 
Siblings who hate each other is unfortunately all too common an issue for parents to ignore. In this podcast we explore what a parent can do with their kids who aren't getting along, who are unbearably mean to each other. Our kids fighting all the time can be: 1 - draining for the ENTIRE family 2 - full of opportunities to learn some life lessons a…
 
Setting limits for our kids can be such a challenge. We set them, they ignore or break them. Ugh! In this episode learn how to set better boundaries that we can stick by so that our kids know that we mean what we say. Learn to say: 1 - "AND WHAT DID I SAY" Using this phrase helps stop the whining and begging that gets so annoying that we often time…
 
In this podcast learn how to deal with disrespect in your home by teaching and modeling respect while keeping calm. The truth is, disrespectful behavior is one of the inappropriate ways kids, especially teenagers but not limited to teens, try to solve their problems. Kids can feel powerless in the face of rules and expectations and talking back and…
 
Life isn’t fair it never has been. How we deal with life is what matters. In this episode learn how you can nurture an understanding of fairness in your child's life as well as ideas on how you can respond to unfairness. We want our kids to be able to: Let them know it's ok to express their emotions when life is unfair Encourage them to give praise…
 
In this podcast I cover a few things. First, what do bad teachers look like? How do they behave? Next, what can you do about it as a parent and, lastly, what can your child do about making it through the year in once piece having learned what they need to. Three types of bad teachers: Fluffy - ones that are nice but don't teach the material Boring …
 
In this episode I talk with Dr. Weisinger about their approach of transforming harmful parental pressure into healthy pressure. He has just released a new book with Dr. Christopher Thurber, The Unlikely Art of Parental Pressure: A Positive Approach to Pushing Your Child to Be Their Best Self. This book provides a roadmap for parents to engage in he…
 
Do you have a kid who is always seeking attention? They are pulling on you, saying “Mommy, mommy, watch me!” Or maybe they try to one up anyone just to make themselves look bigger or better than others. Maybe they’ll even make things up to do that? In this episode you'll learn why your kids are acting that way and how to bring new skills into the m…
 
In this episode Mary interviews author Elaine Taylor-Kraus from ImpactParents about her new book: The Essential Guide to Raising Complex Kids with ADHD, Anxiety and More This guide gives all parents a guide in how to best help their children overcome their challenges in healthy, loving and practical ways. Whether or not you have a child who has bee…
 
In this episode learn how to get to the heart of your child and teach them how to apologize. Learn how to: 1 - Wait till the emotion has passed 2 - Brainstorm with your child to encourage ideas of how the apology can work for them 3 - If their hearts won't melt then allow consequences of their poor decision to not apologize guide them to make bette…
 
In this episode we’ll talk about how to get our older kids, teens and tweens, to experience the bigger picture stuff and expose them to some of the messiness of life in a loving, supportive environment where they might even mess up some. Everything from chores they should know how to do on their own to handling money, cars and how to get a part tim…
 
Understanding how a person perceives love is essential for knowing how to communicate love to them. In this interview I'm so happy to have Bec and Holly who have a podcast called ILoveYouTooMuchToArgue to explain what Love Languages are and how to use them in your family. Five Love Languages are: Acts of Service Gifts Words of Affirmation Physical …
 
In this podcast I interview Richard Carpriola an expert in addiction counseling with over 20 years of experience. He's the author of The Addicted Child: A Parent's Guide to Adolescent Substance Abuse. I found the book and talking with Richard really useful in learning about the different substances – marijuana, alcohol, vaping, inhalants and more, …
 
Do you have kids who are always running to the car and saying: “I’m first!”? Or maybe they argue over who mom or dad reads to first at night? How about who gets to sit where at the dinner table? Or who does dad pour the catsup on French fries first? I know my boys would have a battle each time we got into an elevator over who gets to push the butto…
 
Parents are often baffled by their kids not listening and totally ignoring them. In this seminar which was taped during a Zoom presentation, parents learn that how we talk to our kids and when we talk to them has a huge impact on their ability to listen to us. In this talk you'll learn not only WHEN to communicate but about these techniques to be m…
 
This is special podcast recording of a seminar at Prospect High School meant for all of you who are having a tough time communicating with your teens. I also have a YouTube version from Evergreen High School that includes all my PowerPoint slides that you can find on my Parenting Decoded YouTube Channel. Whether you prefer podcasts or YouTube I wan…
 
In this episode I interview Bianca D'Agostino. She's a family and child therapist in Ottawa Canada who has lots of experience help families with issues around anxiety. Here's the link to Bianca's helpful graphic on the different levels of anxiety, A through F: ANXIETY GRAPHIC Bianca's contact info and professional information: BIANCA D'GOSTINO…
 
This is the audio version of my online seminar which is also available on my YouTube Channel, Parenting Decoded. There is also a YouTube link to this seminar if you'd like to see all the slides that go along with this presentation. YouTube LINK In this expanded conversation we go over tips to handle our anger that is triggered by our children and f…
 
26: Lying, Cheating, and Stealing Many parents get very upset when they catch their children lying, stealing, or cheating. We all hate the feeling of betrayal, being lied to, or cheated. But we all lie for lots of reasons. Sometimes to cover up bad behaviours. Other times, we do it out of fear because we want to spare ourselves of punishment or avo…
 
Tantrums continue to be a huge problem for parents. Take a listen to this one hour Zoom seminar Mary did with a live audience with lots of practical advice on how to get a handle on tantrums in your home. Learn about: Why tantrums happen What to do while the tantrum is happening What to do AFTER the tantrum is over How to avoid tantrums in the futu…
 
It’s very difficult as a parent to see our kids struggle either academically or socially. For some of us we feel that our kid is the only one struggling and we have no idea where to turn to. In this podcast I interview Lexie Burnes of NeuroPlay Academics for information about how and when you might look to get your child tested if you suspect somet…
 
Holidays and gift giving can bring about so much stress to families who are sucked into the commercialism of our current situation. In this podcast I want to give you all some hints about making gift giving a more heartfelt experience not only from you as the giver but also how to create an attitude of gratitude in our kids who are receiving those …
 
Kids are self-centered from the get-go, no doubt about it. We have to teach them to be grateful for all that they have, all that we give them. But, how on earth do we do that when there's so much taking and so little giving going on around us? First, I want to talk about entitlement – what it is and how it can grow out of control. Then I’ll go over…
 
Are you having trouble deciding whether to give in to your child's request to quit an activity? Feeling like you might be raising a kid to be a quitter if you do ? Take a listen to help you navigate this touchy subject! It seems that many parents have to cross the threshold of their child wanting to quit an activity. It could be piano, basketball, …
 
Our kids are smart. They really know how to manipulate us into getting what they want – crying, whining, having tantrums, giving us the silent treatment. It can be overwhelming. In my last podcast we were learning how to use choices early to avoid power struggles from the get-go. In this podcast we’re going to follow along that positive path by usi…
 
Do you feel like you’re always battling your child? You tell them to do something and you immediately get a “no” followed by whining and complaining or outright defiance? A simple request that turns into a war is enough to send us over the edge sometimes. In this podcast I talk about how to avoid power struggles by using a secret weapon -- Choices!…
 
I'm in California where parents are going through setting up and managing distanced learning in their homes since almost no schools are doing in-person learning. This podcast will cover these areas: 1 - Physical LEARNING AREA - how to organize it, get rid of distractions, provide a quiet area to focus, how and when to charge and test devices, and h…
 
Many of us struggle with kids who whine, disobey and maybe even lie just to get their way. We get so exasperated we want to explode and some of us certainly do explode. In this podcast we’ll explore what happens in our families if we’re always operating in “crisis mode” then talk about ways to avoid ever getting into that mode by using Family Meeti…
 
In this podcast I’m going to cover issues relating to money with middle and high schoolers. I will go over how to give money and how much, when to give money, and how to set up responsible money habits including how to use an ATM card, checking account, credit cards. Money is a huge challenge for us all and at this stage your high schooler or middl…
 
There are things to do at different ages and stages to help introduce money concepts to your kids so that by the time they graduate from high school they know about budgeting, credit cards and debt. In this podcast, I’ll concentrate on what to do with younger kids, from toddler years up through elementary school using a simple spend-save-share meth…
 
I’ve had quite a few people asking me about chores – how to set them up, do you pay for them, how much do you pay, is allowance tied to chores, do I need chore charts with rewards, what do I do if my kid won’t do their chores. In this podcast I want to address all those issues and more. Chores let your kids develop life skills that, if taught well,…
 
In this episode I talk about the anger in our homes that gets directed at our children and some ideas for how we can get it under control. First, I’ll talk about the impact anger has on our families then three ways to help mitigate anger in your home. Lastly, I’ll give you some fun and creative ideas about how to repair relationships with your kids…
 
In Part 2, I cover my final 5 rules dealing with older kids when individual cell-phones, laptops and other electronics come in to play by about middle school. Rule 9: Use Contracts Rule 10: Use Monitoring Software Rule 11: Talk About Online Safety Rule 12: Talk About Social Media and Gaming Rule 13: Talk about Porn Here are links to resources menti…
 
As most parents have noticed screens are a constant source of friction in our households that just never seems to end. This podcast is the first of two parts; Part 1 targeting younger families and how to deal with what I call “family screens.” I go over ways we can set up screens in our family in such a way that there are limits with obedience, and…
 
Getting our kids to obey and comply is a daily struggle for so many. Our classic styles of punishment just seem to be falling on deaf ears these days, doesn't it? You can take stuff away or give time outs until your face turns blue and the next day your kids are right back on their bad behaviors. Right? In this episode we'll talk about why "punishm…
 
In this episode we talk about what good might come from sibling rivalry but then some really practical techniques to use with your kids: not taking sides separating our kids teaching them communication skills setting aside Special Time I also talk about the very useful technique from Love and Logic Institute called Energy Drain and where to get mor…
 
In this podcast we about how to handle sleep for our tweens and teens and why sleep seems to be so difficult for them biologically and socially. I want to give you some ideas about how to react and manage both your expectations and theirs regarding this really essential part of their growing years. With the stresses in our environment today the imp…
 
This podcast is for parents of toddlers through elementary school, I have a separate podcast on dealing with issues of sleep and teens so please head there if you have older kids. In this podcast we’ll go through some ideas for moving toward bed, getting ready for bed, turning out the lights and finally ideas for those of you who have kids who wake…
 
Today with CoVID-19 virus keeping families in close quarters I wanted to do a special podcast to help with tantrums that might be happening way too often. Tantrums can be so draining and disruptive to happy family life so in this hour of great need I’m going to talk about: · the emotion behind the tantrums · how to set up “calm down” time · how to …
 
We often fret about young ones not eating right but things can be just as stressful for parents of teens and tweens. In this episode I talk about what to do when: Teens skip meals When lack of food gets kids emotional or "hangry" as it's commonly called How to deal with different diets our kids experiment with Enjoy! Here: TRANSCRIPT OF PODCAST…
 
Food battles are so common in families this podcast is dedicated to giving ideas on how to move from battle to harmony at mealtime. Here are some of the items covered: Family Mealtime Rules 1. We eat at the table 2. We don’t have electronics, toys, or books while we eat 3. If a kid can lift a fork on their own, they need to feed themselves 4. When …
 
In this episode we review a number of different situations where a parent not remembering something allowed their children to become responsible and prove to themselves and their parents that they are capable as well. We also learn how being the "Finder" parent in your household isn't as helpful as we think it is. Finder parents are those parents w…
 
In this episode targeted toward parents of teens we'll learn how to deal with disrespect in our home. As part of dealing with disrespect we learn what happens to our teens and tweens when they get upset. We learn about the brain science behind the teen brain that makes maintaining respect in our homes more difficult. We discuss the ways in which pa…
 
Date: 2/25/20 Episode #1 - Helicopter Parenting Take a look at how to decode this now classic style of parenting -- the Helicopter Parent. The hovering and nagging are holding our kids back! Learn why we do this and get hints on what to do about it so you can raise a responsible, respectful child to be an independent and amazing adult. HOW WE HELIC…
 
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