show episodes
 
Are you a coach who's afraid to use the "T" word (Trauma) on your calls? Or you that trauma is a thing, that it happens, but not much more (because you’re not sure if you want to know more)? If any of this resonates (or you just want to know more about how, as coaches, we can support clients carrying trauma), this podcast is for you. Bringing our lack of understanding into the light is necessary to support ourselves—and clients—during calls. Now coach, I am NOT HERE to induce fear or paralys ...
 
Loading …
show series
 
Learning how to manage your mindset is one of the fundamentals of the coaching industry. Many coaches teach the idea that it is “just a thought” that you can taught to change. While this is a helpful tool for many, it is not the end all, be all solution for everyone. Humans are multidimensional and multifaceted beings, and the ways that our bodies …
 
Discover what to do when you don’t believe you can do something. We’re talking about this in relation to quitting porn, but you can apply this logic to any goal you’re pursuing. I’m sharing how to start developing real self-trust by taking small, practical steps, so you can start believing that whatever you want to achieve really is possible. Get f…
 
If your body or nervous system isn’t on board when you’re choosing new thoughts to believe, the unconscious programming will, with time usually override those unsustainable affirmations you’re offering up. If we want to live that life of freedom, joy, openness, abundance, love, and peace, that comes with befriending our body, not ignoring it. And t…
 
Carl Rogers said, “The curious paradox is that when I accept myself just as I am, then I can change.” This is what radical acceptance means. Practicing radical acceptance won’t mean you’ll stay stuck, it's what will fuel the change you want. So this week, I’m offering my favorite sentences that you can add to your Emotion Doc to help you access thi…
 
In this episode, Lindsay Poelman, life coach that focuses on trauma informed coaching methods, dealing with pornography from a woman's perspective, feminism for Christians, and Danny's wife talks about her story and perspective of learning and growing from Danny's porn use. She talks about self advocacy, understanding accountability, and most impor…
 
Enter the rise of coaching. Now this may vary from person to person, and from certification to certification, but problems can come in and arise when you stick to one model as the answer to all of your problems. It keeps people from setting boundaries when it is necessary to create safety, because they think the safety then need comes from more thi…
 
I’m introducing you to a great tool you’re going to want to start using immediately: the Emotion Doc. Hear what my Emotion Doc entails, and how you can apply it to any emotion you want to try on. I’m sharing the thoughts that help me access certainty and one vital question to ask yourself as you consider accessing certainty, so you can attain any g…
 
Having a connected relationship with your intuition is having a connected relationship with yourself. By listening and understanding to your intuition, you're honoring your body's needs at that moment. In this episode Lindsay Poelman offers ways to understand your intuition, how to foster a deeper connection with it, and why it's ok to not guilt yo…
 
Discover the difference between nurturing yourself and numbing. You’ll hear some questions you can ask yourself to identify what you need most in moments when you are tempted to numb with pornography, and why nurturing yourself is not the same as running away from your emotions. Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.sarabrewer.…
 
In this episode your host Danny Poelman shares wins, successes, and lessons learned from his clients, along with methods and strategies to find the best path of healing for you. He also talks about the need to slow down to move forward and speed up the healing process and what that means and is required from you. Listen to the full episode now. Dan…
 
Relationships are often dynamic and consist of different power structures throughout our lives. As women especially, from the way we have been conditioned, we may sometimes even place power over our lives to those who don't even realize they have it. In this episode Lindsay Poelman offers ways to recognize the different power dynamics in your life …
 
Discover what is really creating the feeling that your porn habit is out of control. Whether you’re feeling shame around your porn use, or you just don’t understand it, I’m showing you why it’s okay to have bad habits, as long as we acknowledge them, and I’m giving you everything you need to know to show up with integrity and regain a sense of cont…
 
Tune into this week’s podcast where common religious misconceptions are made about people when they begin to differentiate from their church. Most of the time, the assumptions we make are more of a clear hit into our own conditioning—rather than what the person you’re observing is experiencing. And in Lindsay’s words: “I share all of this with the …
 
You are worth not giving up on. I hope that this story about the impossible inspires you to do the impossible things. Listen to the full episode to learn more. Danny Poelman is a certified life coach and helps guys stop looking at pornography (and be happy about it) and make their real life and/or marriage what they want it to be. He created this p…
 
Join me this week as I show you how to retrain your brain, and what this retraining of your brain will require of you. You’ll discover why, while retraining your brain can be simple, it won’t necessarily be easy, and some important considerations to keep in mind as you practice this process. Get full show notes and more information here: https://ww…
 
In this episode your host Lindsay Poelman talks about high demand religions and how they can contribute to trauma and trauma responses. Lindsay looks at this through the lens of her experiences from The Church of Jesus Christ Latter Day Saints, but welcomes all to listen and check in to see how it resonates or doesn't resonate with you. In this epi…
 
Discover how the reward system in our brains has been vital to our survival, and why it’s become a modern-day problem. I’m showing you why we don’t have to be at the mercy of our brain’s reward system, and how to recognize that your craving for porn is no different from any other dopamine-producing substance. Get full show notes and more informatio…
 
In this episode your host Danny Poelman shares 3 inspiring real life stories of guys you might be able to relate to who felt stuck and were looking for ways to empower themselves or change their habits. His discusses honesty, vulnerability, how to consciously choose, why it's important to prioritizing your health and well being, and dispel shame ab…
 
In the final installment of this three-part interview, Ryan offers his research and findings on beginning to understand shame in a new way. We’re discussing the difference between guilt and shame, the dangers of equating these two emotions, and what you can do to combat shame, instead of continuing to feed it. Get full show notes and more informati…
 
In this episode your host Danny Poelman discusses some lessons and thoughts that come up during his group coaching calls with his clients. He celebrates the wins, shares the difficulties that came up, and proves that companionship in your growth journey can be a powerful tool for change. Listen to the full episode to learn more. Danny Poelman is a …
 
Tune in this week for a deeper understanding of the psychological tension that keeps people going back to porn time and time again. We’re discussing why simply changing the behavior of viewing porn isn’t going to help with the discomfort of moral incongruence, and Ryan is sharing what the research says is the best way to approach changing your porn…
 
In this episode, Lindsay and Tina talk about the different ways coaches can form connections with their clients and create a space for their clients to find answers and solutions that work for them. Some of the things discussed are: Validating your client's emotions and stories. Let your client’s stories be heard so that they can question them and …
 
In this episode your host Danny Poelman discusses some lessons and thoughts that come up during his coaching calls with his clients. He discusses the importance of committing with freedom, with choice, without fear. He talks about the importance of recognizing why it is you feel bad when you watch porn and how to work around those negative emotions…
 
In part one of this three-part series, Ryan Hewitt shares his fascinating research on addiction and porn. You’ll discover how, in many cases, perceived addiction around porn is rooted in an internal battle rather than an actual addiction, and why we have to be cautious about labeling our impulses as an addiction. Get full show notes and more inform…
 
In this episode, Lindsay and Sara talk how and why coaches need to do what is best for their clients, such as: Recognizing when to ask for outside help for your client Empowering your client to find the answer outside of an authority figure Facilitating conjunctive support when it is in the best interest of the client Certified Life Coach Sara Brew…
 
In this episode, Lindsay and Andrea talk key components of why it matters to be trauma-informed: When you do this work on yourself, you are able to minimize being triggered on calls. How it can be surprisingly quick to use these tools to tone down triggers. Why safety in groups matters, especially when we're processing emotions with respect to our …
 
Discover everything you need to know about being worthy and creating the feeling of worthiness. I’m sharing why you don’t have to change your behavior in order to feel worthy, why quitting porn in itself isn’t where your worthiness is going to come from, and how you can create worthiness right now, regardless of your actions. Get full show notes an…
 
This is Part 2 of a series of Why Trauma Responses are Pro Social. In this episode your host Lindsay Poelmans discusses what potential trauma responses can look like outside of the entrepreneurship realm. She also explains why there is a balance to be found between responsibility and labeling experiences as traumatic. Why does this matter? It’s hel…
 
In this episode your host Danny Poelman, talks about the lessons he's learned from his new dog about quitting porn and fighting urges. When we are first learning to quit porn, or anything really, like unhealthy food habits, or alcohol, etc. we give in to our urges. It is our lower brain that pushes us to follow through with those urges. We need to …
 
In this episode your host Lindsay Poelman talks about the different types of trauma responses and what they can look like for coaches and entrepreneurs. The goal of being able to identify trauma responses is to be able to create a safe, open, and welcoming space for your clients (and yourself) so that you are able to provide a safe, open, and welco…
 
This week, learn how to recognize that you are not your thoughts. I’m showing you why we have certain thoughts that we seem to keep thinking no matter how hard we try not to, and how to start becoming an observer of your thoughts to allow more peace and self-love as you move towards your goals. Get full show notes and more information here: https:/…
 
Join us in this episode where I interview RTC Alumn and marriage coach Jessica Farmer. Jessica talks to us about her work in coaching people whose spouses have a mental illness and how becoming trauma informed has benefitted her practice with her clients. She talks about things like: How she is now able to recognize trauma responses in her clients …
 
Discover new insights and perspectives around the relationship between the LGBTQ+ community, the Church, and viewing pornography. We’re discussing how religion impacted TJ’s experience of processing his sexual orientation, why pornography use doesn’t influence your sexual orientation, and the importance of dismantling the internalized homophobia th…
 
This is an interview Kathy Kinghorn and Lindsay Poelman had with Caryn Gillen about our Advanced Certification: Relationship Trauma Certification for Coaches. We discuss the importance of being trauma-informed. If our goal is to help our clients get where they want to go and for us to “do no harm” in helping them get there, then we really need to u…
 
In this episode, your host Lindsay Poelman sits down with Kathy Kinghorn. Join us in this episode where I interview Trauma Therapist Kathy Kinghorn. Kathy owns a wildly successful therapy practice in Lehi, Utah and has been training therapists for years. We discuss: Why being open to “Bridging the Gap” between coaches and therapists can be in the b…
 
In this episode, your host Danny Poelman discusses the importance of decision making and why deciding when you will make a commitment is imperative to the success of your journey. The brain uses up a lot of energy just thinking about what decision it needs to make, and by pondering on your commitment to change for too long you may fatigue your brai…
 
Tina and I dive into a three-part concept called The Success Circle. You’ll learn what The Success Circle entails, how each element interacts with each other, and what is required of you to create incremental progress towards your goals. Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.sarabrewer.com/blog/success-circle-with-tina…
 
In this episode your host Lindsay Poelman discusses why being trauma informed in inclusive. She talks about why it is helpful and inclusive to meet people where they are at, and how it can dramatically improve your coaching business when you take the time to learn how others process things in their lives differently. Listen to the full episode to l…
 
If you’re truly sick and tired of porn controlling you, you no longer believe the narrative that you’ll have to struggle forever, or you believe you’re capable of anything, but for some reason, porn has been the one thing you can’t seem to get rid of, join me this week. You'll hear how private coaching might be exactly what you need to change your …
 
In this episode, your host Danny Poelman talks about the chain breaker process, his new group coaching program, and how that has helped the people who joined. Listen to the full episode to learn more! Danny Poelman is a certified life coach and helps guys stop looking at pornography (and be happy about it) and make their real life and/or marriage w…
 
Discover how the feeling of loneliness contributes to a pornography habit. I’m sharing the impact of the thoughts you have around your loneliness, how to recognize these thoughts when they come up, and I’m showing you how to change the narrative that your loneliness is something that needs a quick and temporary fix. Get full show notes and more inf…
 
In this bonus episode of the "Become a Trauma Informed Coach" podcast, your host Lindsay Poelman talks about our intent to do no harm as coaches. What is the code of conduct when coaching a client experiencing trauma and triggering events? Is the intent to do no harm the same as actually not doing harm? Learn more by listening to the full episode n…
 
In this bonus episode of the "Become a Trauma Informed Coach" podcast, your host Lindsay Poelman talks about why coaches need to practice awareness and the mindset work involved. Coaches need to practice awareness not only to better understand their clients, but also themselves and their own triggers so that they can be the best coach for themselve…
 
In this bonus episode of the "Become a Trauma Informed Coach" podcast, your host Lindsay Poelman talks about the modalities for healing. She talks about the need to adapt, evolve, and be willing to learn and try new practices in the pursuit of being the best coach for your clients. Learn more by listening to the full episode now! Your host, certifi…
 
In this bonus episode of the "Become a Trauma Informed Coach" podcast, your host Lindsay Poelman talks about what happens when you or a client are triggered during a coaching call, and how we can best handle the situation if it arises. She talks about recognizing triggers and understanding our own triggers. Learn more by listening to the full episo…
 
In this bonus episode of the "Become a Trauma Informed Coach" podcast, your host Lindsay Poelman talks about treatment induced trauma. Yes your clients can experience trauma through treatment. How can we be more trauma informed to ensure that we are providing a safe for all of our clients? Learn more by listening to the full episode now! Your host,…
 
In this bonus episode of the "Become a Trauma Informed Coach" podcast, your host Lindsay Poelman talks about relational trauma. Trauma can come from many different areas of our lives, including the relationships that we have. This episode breaks down the traumas that one can experience in their relationships. Learn more by listening to the full epi…
 
In this episode Danny Poelman shares lessons learned from his client Ben, and the successes he has experienced. It's an episode to celebrate wins and to show that coaching really does work. Listen to the full episode to learn more! Danny Poelman is a certified life coach and helps guys stop looking at pornography (and be happy about it) and make th…
 
In this bonus episode of the "Become a Trauma Informed Coach" podcast, your host Lindsay Poelman talks about the multidimensionality of humans and how that directly impacts the multifaceted ways we can heal from trauma. Learn more by listening to the full episode now! Your host, certified life coach Lindsay Poelman started her journey of intentiona…
 
Sometimes, the problem isn’t that you just suck. Sometimes, the problem is that you need to take a look at the systems and the way you’re going about where you’re trying to get. Join me to discover how, maybe, the problem isn’t you if you’re struggling to quit viewing pornography. Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.sarabrewe…
 
Loading …

Quick Reference Guide

Copyright 2022 | Sitemap | Privacy Policy | Terms of Service
Google login Twitter login Classic login