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Welcome to BariAftercare: The Podcast, where weight loss surgery patients learn healthy coping skills for dealing with the emotional and psychological issues related to living an amazing post-op life. Learn to avoid regain and how to lose post-op regain! Hosted by Dr. Connie Stapleton, a licensed psychologist with many years of experience sharing practical skills for improving your post-op relationships: with food, with other people and most importantly, the relationship you have with yourse ...
 
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We’ve all heard that actions speak louder than words. This definitely holds true in the world of bariatrics! Prior to surgery or any weight loss program, most people talk about their commitment, their readiness for change, and proclaim their promises to do things differently this time. In this episode of BariAftercare, we’ll explore 9 objective fac…
 
In the bariatric world, we focus a lot on setting goals. A goal answers the question: What do you want? As a post-op, you want to lose weight, improve your health and the quality of your life, and you want to maintain that healthier weight for life! Those are truly great goals! Having a process, or system, answers the question, “How are you going t…
 
Calling all MEN! (And ladies, you need to listen to this, as well!) Meet Rob DiMedio, a history teacher, post-op and POST-OP MENTOR! When I suggest that people IMMERSE themselves into their recovery from obesity, Rob is the STELLAR EXAMPLE! You're gonna love him. AND... he is going to assist me in the FIRST EVER MEN'S RETREAT for post-ops to be hel…
 
In this episode of BariAfercare you are being introduced to another regular member of BariAftercare for 2023: Chef Healthy Henry! Henry is a post-op himself. He has taken his professional skills as a chef and is using them to his – and now to your – benefit! Chef Healthy Henry is going to show you - every month - how to cook a beautiful, bariatric-…
 
Welcome to 2023 and BariAftercare, the Podcast! I’m your host, Dr. Connie Stapleton... even though I’m not quite sounding like myself! BUT… the show must go on, so this is me with a touch of laryngitis. This is episode 103: the first of a monthly video series this year called Family, Friends and Relationships after Bariatric Surgery. In this episod…
 
Welcome to the last podcast episode of 2022 in which you will hear from an incredibly dynamic woman who has not only received numerous gifts as a result of having bariatric surgery but is also going to share the gift of herself and her chosen career in the travel industry with the bariatric community in the near future. Listen in as Meg Sytnick tel…
 
Have you ever met a person with a sparkling personality? If not, you’re about to! Meet Ilona! Ilona is a breath of fresh air! She can put a smile on your face in an instant! She also has the ability to share direct and honest feedback in the most loving way! I know you’ll love hearing about the gifts Ilona has received as a result of choosing to ha…
 
As Sam the Snowman, voiced by the inimitable Burl Ives in the famous, animated holiday story, Rudolph the Red-Nosed Reindeer says, “Ah, youth.” Today you will meet a most incredible young post-op named Olivia who shares wisdom beyond her years related to the lessons and gifts she has received as she has ventured into her new life as a healthier ver…
 
We’re in the thick of the Holiday Season! The holidays are a time of giving and receiving gifts! Today, and for the next few weeks, post-ops are going to share with you the gifts they have received as a result of having bariatric surgery. In addition, they share how they have shared those gifts with others! Meet Chris Chastain, a man I have known f…
 
You’ve likely been hearing and seeing a lot on podcasts and on social media about eating healthy over the holidays and protecting yourself from all of the high-carb, high-sugar foods that are … well, everywhere! That is all good stuff and I hope you listen to and read as much as possible about staying on track over the holidays! What about protecti…
 
A post-op patient recently told me she has started counting the number of self-sabotaging behaviors she recognizes herself engaging in every day. She was shocked and horrified at the many ways she was sabotaging her own weight loss success. Examples of her self-sabotaging behaviors included hiding food in her closet and eating it before she went to…
 
“I’m not mad!” she shouts as she throws her backpack and slams the door while leaving you shaking your head. Passive aggressive behavior… when words and non-verbal communication don’t match. Sadly, we’re all probably fairly competent when it comes to this sort of communication. How does passive-aggressive behavior interfere with the weight loss pro…
 
Oh, boy! Today you’re gonna learn a few ugly things about my communication skills in my young adult life. Fortunately, with the help of others and quite a bit of effort, I have learned much healthier skills over the years that I now utilize… at least most of the time. Spoiler alert – I’m talking about being an aggressive communicator which is no go…
 
I’ve asked these questions before and I’m going to ask them again right now: Do you feel like a doormat in any of your relationships? Do you feel resentful of others because you give in to requests for the sake of not upsetting others, to be included in the group, to be liked, or because you learned from others to always be the one who does all of …
 
Active listening is yet another healthy, assertive communication skill. But it is way more than that in terms of your bariatric journey. Actively listening - to yourself and how you communicate with yourself - can actually prevent you from being stuck in a vicious cycle of unhealthy emotional eating. Learning to listen to, and change negative self-…
 
The therapist my husband and I saw for several years when we started our journeys toward living an overall healthy lifestyle said to us over and over and over, “You always have the right to share your thoughts, your feelings and your observations.” It took us some time to learn to do so in a healthy way. For a long while, we found a way to somehow …
 
Dean Anderson, Behavior Psychology Expert, asked this question in an online article in 2006: “Would you believe me if I told you that knowing the answer to one simple question could improve your chances for weight loss success by up to 100%? Well, it’s true. Here’s the question: Which of the following is the single most important factor in long-ter…
 
Being an assertive communicator, which will help you in your weight loss journey, is the ultimate communication goal – at least for people who want to be their healthiest adult selves! It would be great if everyone would learn to communicate in a healthy, direct, respectful manner! And for YOU… if you learn and practice and get really good at commu…
 
Assertive? Passive? Aggressive? Or maybe Passive-Aggressive? Four different ways to communicate with others… and I suppose with yourself, as well! Do you know what communication style you most often utilize? And… can you guess which form of communication is the most effective? How about the style used least frequently? Oh… and, what do these commun…
 
What did you expect? There’s a question we throw around quite often. Too often, what we expect something to be like does not exactly match the reality of the situation. Maybe you expected your last vacation to be trouble-free… that rarely happens! Perhaps you expected the new job to be the dream job… but it turned out that the new office had all of…
 
If, as we have talked about during the past few podcast episodes, you want to set healthy boundaries and stop neglecting yourself due to unhealthy people-pleasing behaviors, you need to commit to learning and using assertiveness skills! Not to worry, being assertive is not the same thing as being aggressive, rude or nasty. Being assertive is statin…
 
Are you a people pleaser? Well… if you have trouble saying “no,” feel responsible for other people’s feelings, avoid conflict at all costs, apologize a lot, and feel like you never have time for yourself (especially if you’re busy doing so much for so many others)… then it could be that you are, indeed, a people pleaser! There’s nothing wrong with …
 
Boundaries are the ways we teach other people to treat us… I think that’s from Dr. Phil, actually. In our journey of weight loss, setting boundaries for ourselves establishes guardrails to keep us safe. When we set boundaries for ourselves or with other people, we are engaging in healthy acts of self-care. Too many people struggle to set boundaries…
 
What makes asking for help so difficult? Not surprisingly, fear is the top reason given for not asking for help. Fear of what, you ask? Fear of imposing upon others. Fear of appearing too needy. Fear of looking or sounding incompetent, unintelligent, or incapable. Fear of exposing the fact that we are not perfect and we don’t, in fact, have it all …
 
Self-care simply means doing things for yourself that improve your physical, social, emotional/psychological health. In other words, engaging in self-care means you focus on your own needs with as much effort as you put into caring for so many others! Engaging in self-care results in increased energy, less stress, and lower risk of illness. When it…
 
Like most people I talk to who are preparing for bariatric surgery, Claude Viens, after many times of gaining and lose the same pounds, realized he knew what he was supposed to do to lose weight – and to keep it off. The problem he faced was taking the action and continuing to take those actions over time. He eventually came to terms with the fact …
 
In this episode, I begin a two-part series presenting some highlights from Claude Viens book. Claude makes it clear to the reader that he is not a professional in any sense when it comes to weight loss. He is a man who struggled with weight loss and regain for many years… until he figured out some very insightful thoughts and practices that allowed…
 
When a person has a chronic disease like obesity or addiction, everyone in their world is in some way affected. Family members, in particular, are impacted by the presence of a chronic disease suffered by one of its members. In the case of obesity or addiction, family members worry. They are scared about the health of their loved one. They worry ab…
 
Joy had bariatric surgery 14 years ago and lost weight as expected following surgery. Prior to surgery, Joy rarely consumed alcohol and did not knowingly engage in any other addictive behaviors or consume other addictive substances. More than a year passed before she took a sip of alcohol. Her first post-surgery drink was four ounces of wine. She w…
 
Addiction professionals say some very wise things. For instance, Dr. Vera Tarman, author of Food Junkies (I recommend reading the 2nd edition as she talks about bariatric surgery in this version) says, “From food addiction to food serenity – freedom tastes great!” Tennie McCarty, author of Shades of Hope says, “If you can’t take it or leave it, you…
 
I recently heard what turned into a controversial discussion on a radio show about whether or not someone who smokes suffers with low self-esteem. I gave the issue quite a bit of thought, broadening the question to pertain to those with food issues, alcohol issues and other addictive-type issues. My personal experience and my years as a professiona…
 
“You’re Only Responsible for the Effort You Put Into Whatever You Do.” This sentence has had tremendous impact in my life. And I hope it will become a sentence that you learn to live by! People who have bariatric surgery tell me they want to live at a healthy weight and have an improved quality of life. In order for that to happen, they need to dev…
 
The absolute best way to REFUSE REGAIN is to follow the bariatric basics. Today’s episode is one you will want to listen to on a regular basis. Today I interviewed Dr. Susan Mitchell, bariatric RD and host of her own, acclaimed podcast, Bariatric Surgery Success, which you want to listen to regularly. The link to her website is below. Be sure to si…
 
Consciously or subconsciously, many post-ops resist making the changes necessary to lose weight and to keep weight off. Well, that doesn’t make sense! People choose to have bariatric surgery. They’re informed prior to having it what they need to do behaviorally after surgery as they lose weight. They are told very specifically what behaviors they n…
 
For the next several weeks I’ll be talking about regain… how to avoid it and how to lose it if it’s found you! Set it firmly in my mind that you REFUSE REGAIN! Use the information in this video and the next several videos to maintain your weight loss or to help you lose any pounds you may have regained. And then… again… REFUSE REGAIN! In today’s ep…
 
I’ve been hearing a lot of post-op bariatric patients using the words “body dysmorphia” quite a lot in the past couple of years in relation to how they are experiencing the changes in their bodies after major weight loss. I did some investigating as the little bit of information I had about body dysmorphic disorder did not seem to fit the descripti…
 
Health coaching is becoming more and more popular, particularly in the field of bariatric medicine! Not everyone needs the deeper dive that takes place in therapy sessions, but could definitely use an additional support person. Health coaches are tremendous for assisting you in setting goals and being an accountability person to help you remain con…
 
The information I recently learned about sleep as it relates to our health and weight has decidedly got me re-thinking the importance of sleep in my life! Bariatric patients often have one or more health comorbidities to include diabetes, sleep apnea, cardiovascular issues and hypertension. Wait until you hear how getting less than eight hours of s…
 
What does “overall psychological strength and stability” mean and what does that have to do with maintaining weight loss? Having what the researchers of the article we have been discussing for the past several episodes call “overall psychological strength and stability” basically means being a healthy adult. Well… that doesn’t clear things up very …
 
Are you an autonomous adult? Say what? Are you a person who makes decisions for themselves, who is independent and chooses their own path in life? I’m sure that in many ways and in many areas of your life, you are indeed an independent decision-maker. How about when it comes to make decisions for your life about having bariatric surgery, what foods…
 
What is the truth about sugar? How much is it okay for you to have in a day’s time? And what about all the sugar substitutes? Are some of them better for you than others? Or are all of the ok? Or maybe they’re all bad? Oh, yeah…. And then there are those things called sugar alcohols? What’s up with them? Listen in and get the scientific facts from …
 
Self-efficacy is a person’s belief in their ability to succeed in a particular situation. When it comes to keeping weight off following bariatric surgery, many post-op patients struggle mightily to believe deep down in their heart of hearts that they will succeed in keeping their weight off for the long haul. They may or may not verbalize this sens…
 
Life is stressful – both before bariatric surgery – and after bariatric surgery. You’ll continue to run late in the morning, your job will continue to overwhelm or overload you, your family will still say and do things that hurt your feelings or frustrate the bejeesus out of you, parents will continue to age, spouses and partners will disappoint yo…
 
Of course you want to lose your excess weight when you have bariatric surgery. You also (hopefully) want to keep that weight off! A group of researchers has informed us that having and utilizing a healthy support system after bariatric surgery is a great predictor for keeping weight off. Let’s bring this home. Do YOU have a support system? People i…
 
Internal (or intrinsic) motivation has been noted by researchers as being a healthy predictor of successful weight loss maintenance. Intrinsic motivation comes from within a person rather than from outside rewards or fear of punishment. External (or extrinsic) motivation comes from a desire for some sort of physical reward. Most people, during thei…
 
In almost every weight loss program there is a focus on behavior modification. In other words, what are you going to do differently from your regular food routine in order to lose weight? Behavior modifications are basically what I refer to as the “Gotta Do Ems.” Behavior modifications focus on keeping portion sizes reasonable, limiting the process…
 
I couldn’t leave you hanging and not hear the end of Tonimarie’s story of how she re-lost the regain she experienced after bariatric surgery! As a recap, Tonimarie regained all of the weight she lost following bariatric surgery. She was considering having a revision surgery, but learned that her anatomy was still as it had been after surgery. In ot…
 
Like many others who have had bariatric surgery, Tonimarie found herself having regained all of the weight she lost after her bariatric procedure several years ago. In the past year, Tonimarie has put forth the kind of consistent effort that results in weight loss and leads to weight maintenance. Tonimarie utilizes a support group, seeks informatio…
 
The holidays, yesterday (and last year) are over. How were your holidays… foodwise, I mean?! The truth is, it doesn’t matter because we only have today in which to live! Focusing on living in the moment is a great tool to help you forego regrets about yesterday and stay away from worrying about tomorrow. When it comes to bariatric eating, focusing …
 
The Present is a book by Spencer Johnson. Since we’re in the throes of the holiday season, it seemed pertinent to share this story with you. As a bariatric patient, you can use the lessons in this book to stay focused on the present and create the future you are seeking by learning from the past. You may want to listen to this story several times, …
 
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