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When the clutter, motherhood, relationships, and life seem too overwhelming. When you have resentment and frustration every day – this is a sign you have been living on auto-pilot- letting life happen to you instead of living it ON PURPOSE. I’ve been there. Three kids under 4 and I decided to declutter my home and realized I was living my whole life on autopilot. I wanted more. I wanted to take action, be more present, have more fun! Enjoy my kids! I’m Shawna, You might know me as your Nerdy ...
 
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Spring cleaning had me feeling a mental urgency at ALL THE THINGS I needed to get cleaned in my home. I am sharing how I am approaching that overwhelm. Also sharing how organization and inventory of your stuff can save you money and reduce clutter (starting with the freezer!) Products recommended here may include referral links to Amazon. If you cl…
 
I was asked to cover this topic in the recent feedback survey. I think it is a great question to ask, and it is one I’ve ruthlessly searched to the ends of Pinterest to answer, ‘how to find balance in motherhood’ In this episode, I will share about the extra demands in my life right now and the ways I am finding balance in a very busy season of lif…
 
How to have more fun with our kids. It is OK if you feel like you aren’t enjoying your kids and if having fun with them is not happening or is hard to do. There are a lot of reasons why we aren’t having fun and I want to talk about those and then share ways to bring fun into your family, on purpose In this episode we talk about: The cultural image …
 
When we want others to think well of us, what is happening is we are buying into the cultural myth that WE are all good, all the time. And then our EGO steps in to defend this truth and make us look good all the time. But this comes at a cost, it disconnects us from others. What if we can allow the not so good parts of ourselves to be seen and acce…
 
Ever wonder if decluttering will be worth your time? Does minimalism really matter much? This question was asked in a recent survey I held and I thought it was so valuable. Because we all want to know that going through the work of decluttering will be worth it. Sometimes we need to hear about the benefits to help motivate us to start and move forw…
 
This is a continuation of the insights we had in the #moms30for30 challenge, where we wore 30 items of clothes for 30 days. This challenge was a way for us to shop our closets, wear clothing items we never wear (cause we always stick with familiar, right!?), put together outfits, and get dressed each day. In this episode we cover: The power of visu…
 
In this episode, we are recapping the moms30for30 capsule wardrobe challenge. I will be sharing the insights I have learned and the ones shared by the ladies who joined in this round. Listen to this if you are curious about a capsule wardrobe, simplifying your closet, being more intentional with clothes shopping, being mindful about how trends impa…
 
Hi friends, welcome to an MVP episode. These are episodes I have shared over the years that I have had feedback on that they have been particularly helpful. I am sharing these for those who missed them the first time around and for those who want a refresher. This MVP episode is all about the labels we give our kids and how it changes us and them. …
 
This past week I decluttered a few spaces in the home, the kitchen craft drawers and the office closet. These are areas that had become unruly with stuff and clutter. They have been on my list to declutter as we need to start clearing out our kitchen and dining area to prepare for an upcoming kitchen reno. In this episode I share: How decluttering …
 
We spend much of our days avoiding the emotions we don’t want to feel and panicking when we do feel those negative emotions. But then what happens is we give control over to the emotions and build up our lives hustling away the ‘bad’. Over the years I have learned a lot about emotions that has personally brought me freedom from fearing emotions. Th…
 
How do we talk about hard things? For some of us, our emotions seem overwhelming and we find ourselves dumping them out onto those around us. For some, our emotions seem unacceptable and we find ourselves bottling them up.Neither of these strategies really helps us process our emotions and make progress with them.I think we all find ourselves eithe…
 
We are feeling ready! We have stocked our motivation with books and podcasts and tedtalks, and we have our sneakers on and we are READYSo what do we do?? It is normal to start making a list of all the changes we want to make and pursue a massive overhaul of all the things we want to see changed. This is NOT the sustainable way to make change. It fe…
 
How do you go from sitting on the couch staring at your phone to DOING the THING you said you WANTED to be doing? I want to teach you how to spot AMBIVALENCE and how to address it, so you can go through the steps of moving from ambivalent to ambitious and feel ready and motivated to make the changes you want in your life. I reference the 'last epis…
 
In order to do my capsule wardrobe challenge (#moms30for30) I decided to do a big closet declutter. I'm sharing my takeaways and tips to help you do that big clothes declutter, make refined decisions about what stays, and have a strategy to build up a capsule wardrobe that WORKS FOR YOU! Cause, you need a wardrobe that works for your lifestyle, you…
 
The 30for30 is a popular closet remix challenge. This February 1st I will be hosting a #moms30for30, which is a challenge we have been doing since 2014, where we wear 30 items for 30 days. You can learn so much about your relationship to your clothes and how to make your closet WORK FOR YOU! The build-up to the big closet declutter: Packing outfits…
 
The new year brings a lot of thought to the goals and habits we want to have. I have a new tool for you to try if you are feeling overwhelmed and frustrated with all the work that goes into creating new habits and stopping 'bad habits'. This is called habit refinement. A new tool to try for making habit changeWith this tool, we do a habit audit to …
 
How do you want to spend your time? Your energy? Your space and money? When you decide in line with your values you will feel intentional and purposeful with all your little and big decisions. Knowing your personal values helps you learn more about what matters to you, how you want to show up and how to make confident choices in your day and life. …
 
Family traditions are something we often think about as we start having kids. Many of us are looking for traditions to bring into our holidays that help us make memories with our kids. Sometimes we even feel an urgency to find the 'right ones, right now'. As we start to incorporate these new tradition ideas, sometimes they don't always work. But he…
 
Would you like to be more intentional with how you use your phone? Do you want to set boundaries and take back control of what your relationship with your phone looks like?In this episode, I have tips on how to do all of this, and I share my own personal phone boundaries that you might like to try too. Make sure to get the worksheets to help you cr…
 
I get messages from moms, and coach women who feel like they are addicted to their phones.They share how it pulls them out of their presence with their kids and their lives.It sucks up their time and they feel like they never have enough time.It draws in their attention and they are scrolling social media that does NOT make them feel any better abo…
 
I knew I had to share this episode as I heard more and more coaching clients tell me how much they appreciated hearing me say that I don't always enjoy my kids, that I was a mom martyr, that pregnancy was hard. I keep hearing how much it matters to hear that they aren't alone in these struggles of motherhood. In this episode I am talking about: Fee…
 
We hear a lot about the mental burden that moms carry. We have so many things on our minds about all the people and all the things that need to happen PLUS all the things we want to be doing for ourselves too. It is a weighty mental load that we are carrying around. I want to talk about a concept that will help you see some ways you can lighten thi…
 
There is a type of clutter we ALL have in our home. It is identity clutter - you know those items that for someone we are not - but rather for different versions of ourselves: our past self, our aspirational self, our socially-compliant self, and our test self. I walk you through these four types of identity clutter, how they challenge our sense of…
 
We all feel this sense of 'ideal self' that we want to be moving towards. It is safe to assume a lot of us desire some change on some level in some area of our lives. But we need to consider what change will cost us.We can't ever change if we aren't willing to make some kind of investment in it. Seeing where we need to make an INVESTMENT in the cha…
 
Feel like you are shopping too much? Want to bring a minimalist approach and mindset into how you shop?Every season we seem to be bombarded with the latest fashion trends - a marketing strategy that fast fashion uses to get us to keep buying all the latest colours and patterns. I know I feel like I need to buy a new wardrobe each season and need to…
 
I challenged you to get uncomfortable this week. Now I want to dig into doing simple things that serve a bigger purpose. Giving your discomfort a purpose to work towards the vision and goals you have for your life. I want to break it down, keep it simple, and encourage you to drop your all-or-nothing mindset. This past weekend I did another Abundan…
 
I love comfort (#typeninevibes) and I know that a lot of my comfort-seeking is more the AVOIDANCE of discomfort. I don't want to be uncomfortable. What things make you uncomfortable?For me they have been things like: Taking my small kids out in public Working on the conflicts in my marriage Exercise Getting up in the mornings Doing dishes Declutter…
 
Looking for ways to have more fun in motherhood and BE more fun as a mom? I have asked myself this question too. Inside of our FB Group - Simple on Purpose Community, there comes a great question. The question was in essence, I can DO fun things with my kids, take them to swim, skate, and stuff, but how do I HAVE fun with my kids? How do I BE fun? …
 
It’s back to school time! Are you ready?I know we have been enjoying the slow pace of summer and will need to put ourselves back on schedule to make back to school run more smoothly. Over the years we have developed routines that we rely on in our school and workweek. I want to share our three favourites with you as you think about how you want to …
 
How did your summer go? Anything you wish you that you did more of or less of?Today I have a PROMPT episode for you - where I will prompt you through some helpful questions that I hope will help you live more intentionally. Specifically, having a summer on PURPOSE. So let's take a minute to stop and reflect on the ways you want to improve next summ…
 
Procrastination is an avoidant strategy and there are so many layers to it, why we do it, how to redirect it, how to accept it, and so on. It is also something almost everyone does and something that can cause a lot of shame, especially for moms What is procrastination?It is putting something off for later. We all do it, everday. We put off phone c…
 
When an actor is typecast, they are locked into being cast for a certain TYPE of character, always a version of the same thing. And as parents, we can typecast our own kids. We give them labels on what they are - difficult, athletic, flighty, dramatic. We can also give them seemingly positive labels - like smart, pretty, nice - and those can have i…
 
I have been researching goals and habits since we started setting them in 2015. You can hear Conor share his take on doing this work as a couple in this episode. Over the years I have searched to the ends of Pinterest and tried a lot of strategies to create habits for myself.I was doing this work fueled by the notion that I had to become a morning …
 
Andrea is a Registered Dietician who is here to talk with me about our relationship to food and teaching our kids a healthy relationship with foodI also had a secret motive in asking her on because I had questions about how to handle food with my kids. I know I’m undoing a lot of cultured rules, how I was raised, my own biases, and I want to be min…
 
This is a Q+A episode featuring questions from the Simple Squad (the Simple on Purpose Facebook Community). We are talking about feelings, marriage, seasons of life, parenting and family chores.These answers are coming at you from my life coaching point of view. I am a mom of three kids, trained Life Coach, practical minimalist, and I help moms wit…
 
Expectation overwhelm is when you have a to-do list that is so long that it overwhelms you. This starts a defeating cycle of hustling, beating ourselves up for not doing 'enough', and not really feeling empowered to live a life of purpose. Feeling productive and the beliefs we have about how we spend our timeCoach women a lot on productivity and pr…
 
Do you struggle in your relationship to getting dressed each day? Do you feel guilty for it, or lack confidence in it? Jaime McLaughlin is a hair and make-up artist who is helping moms take care of themselves without the mom guilt. In this episode we talk about the internal shifts we can make, the judgments we might have of ourselves and other moms…
 
When we think about being home with the kids for the summer there can be a lot to dread AND be excited about in this season. I have found my way out of that mental overwhelm is to make a plan on what what I DO want my summer to be. Over the years of planning our seasons as a family, we have developed an approach that helps us stay flexible, work ar…
 
As moms who want to have hobbies and do things they love we get bogged down with notions that we have to monetize our hobby, or that we have to be exceptional at it. We almost use these as measurements to determine if this hobby is 'worth it' in the time, energy, and money it could involve. I want to pitch the Joy of Being Mediocre and how it can u…
 
Do you wish you made time for the things you enjoy? Maybe you aren't sure what hobbies you would like, or you think you aren't 'creative enough' to have hobbies. I have encouragement for the mom who feels guilty that she doesn't enjoy her time, but also feels guilty when she isn't 'productive enough' Siobhan Johnes from the Unlocked Creative is sha…
 
This is not the house I would have chosen to be my forever home, but over the years I have come to terms with us staying here - but how to reconcile with the dissatisfaction of this home not being exactly what I want. Acknowledging our home dissatisfaction Recognizing that deep desire to create a space that FEELS like home Addressing the longing we…
 
This is the LIVE recording from a Facebook Live held earlier today in the Simple on Purpose Community groupI am answering FAQs and addressing the myths we might have about emotional intelligence and emotion coaching our kids. I have been emotion coaching my kids for years now and I have noticed such a huge difference in my own relationship to my em…
 
Health class may of taught us about anatomy, maybe our moms taught us about how to manage a period (but if you are like me, you just figured it out on your own reading the pamphlets in confusion and piecing together crumbs from Seventeen magazine).And then we start going through life, having babies, experiencing postpartum, living momlife and we re…
 
As we talked a lot about emotional intelligence, I want to move over to the physical side of emotional awareness. So often we just ignore our bodies and treat them as something that slows us down - but I've learned through experience, health problems, and researching the SCIENCE that listening to our bodies is vital. It helps us have a better aware…
 
I have had some great questions on how to teach our kids emotional intelligence - and I will answer them in this episode. I will also run through the 5 steps I use (and learned from John Gottman) on how to walk our kids through their emotions and misbehaviours - also called emotion coaching. This episode follows up on 119, about tolerating the emot…
 
I want to run through the steps of teaching your kids emotional intelligence. And to lay the groundwork for that, let's take a minute to explore our relationship to uncomfortable emotions. We are conditioned to view certain emotions as acceptable and unacceptable - and this causes us to have a low tolerance for these emotions that show up in oursel…
 
There is an emotional experience of motherhood that can feel dark, angry, exhausting, hopeless. Some of us even experience postpartum depression or other hormonal imbalances that impact our emotional experience. Is joy still available to us in these really tough times? Does joy mean I'm always happy? Does joy mean it comes easy? Can I find joy in t…
 
What does it mean to be 'Emotionally Intelligent'? How can this help you in motherhood and your life?I'm sharing the basics of Emotional Intelligence (aka EQ) and giving you my take on where each Enneagram Type can develop and round out their EQThe basics of emotional intelligenceIn a nutshell, EQ is being aware of feelings and managing those feeli…
 
This is a bit different of an episode - it is a FUN episode!It is OUR episode - the one where I tell you what is happening behind the scenes and tell you what the reader/listener feedback survey revealed.What I heard from you: Episodes that have helped you Identity Clutter Being a Mom Martyr Who is listening The topics you love to hear about Yes, w…
 
I was a controlling mom. I turned on the NO switch and said no to my kids, to my husband, to myself. But this need to control everything came from one very specific belief I had about myself: that I was not a capable mom (or a capable person, for the most part)We all like the feeling of being in control, but it can lead us to act in ways we don't l…
 
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