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Dear Shandy is a dating advice podcast where Sharleen Joynt and her husband Andy Levine answer your burning relationship questions. New episodes drop every Thursday, and during Bachelor seasons, recaps drop on Tuesdays! Sharleen and Andy are two fiercely independent people who are skeptical of love stories and don’t believe in fate, soulmates, or The One. So how did they wind up so happily married? They learned the dating lessons by living them. Get no-holds-barred, honest advice from two pe ...
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My Boyfriend Still Lives With His Ex—Help! - Ep 139
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It's Caller Day! Today's lovely caller, Emily, is at her wit's end. Her boyfriend still lives with his ex, and while he has his reasons, she's wondering how patient she should be. At what point is having empathy detrimental to our own selves, and is this relationship automatically doomed by its rocky start? Listen on for the Shandy take! Thanks to …
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Bittersweet: How Sadness Is A Superpower With Susan Cain - Ep 138
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This is Sharleen's all-time favorite Hot Topic conversation. You will probably also learn more about Andy's mind and thought process here than in any other episode Shandy's ever done. Are you deeply moved by sad music? Do you find comfort in a rainy day? Does the word "poignant" resonate with you? If you answered "yes" to these, you just may be the…
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Q&A! To BJ Or Not To BJ, Changing Your Date's Style, & The Women's Equivalent To Andy's "Men Are Mature At 36" Rule
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It's Q&A time! We're back, answering YOUR burning questions! If you like the guy but not his style, is it superficial to want to change it? Andy has long said the "maturity threshold" for men is age 36—does he have an age equivalent for women? And is refusing to go down on your partner a potential dealbreaker in the world of dating? Come join us in…
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LOVE FEST! Sarah Nicole & Shane Landry On Harnessing Jealousy & The Romance Of Logistics
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It's Love Fest time! 🎉 Today we're joined by a true ambassador for body positivity, Sarah Nicole Landry, and her partner in crime, her husband Shane Landry. You already know Sarah from her massive The Birds Papaya empire, spanning her Instagram, blog, app, and podcast, and we're thrilled Shane agreed to join so we could talk the dynamics of their p…
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He Wouldn't Quit Following Racy Accounts—Was I Being Too Uptight?
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And just like that... it's Caller Day again! Today's lovely caller, Taylor, was in a passionate romance that felt like The One. But when she confronted her partner about something that made her uncomfortable, things unraveled pretty quickly. Who was in the right, and did she overreact or execute poorly? And looking bigger picture, was this relation…
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Unpacking Purity Culture With Blair Of @TalkPurityToMe
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Today we have the pleasure of speaking with Blair, the “exvangelical” brains behind @TalkPurityToMe, a humorous account dedicated to unlearning the shame taught by purity culture, both on Instagram and TikTok. Purity culture, based on the belief that sex should be had only within heterosexual marriage and that all lustful thoughts before marriage a…
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Q&A! In Ick We Trust, "If He Wanted To, He Would", and To Kill Or Not To Kill?
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It's Q&A time! We're back, answering YOUR burning questions! Does "The Ick" speak to good instincts or just being overly picky? Should we trust that if a man wants to make a move, he will? Is sending an ex a letter always a bad call or are there exceptions? Finally, a great "Am I An Asshole?" question. (Turns out we like those!) Come join us in our…
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LOVE FEST! Courtney Robertson & Humberto Preciado On Instagram Vetting & Keeping The Peace
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It's Love Fest time! 🎉 Today we're joined by a Bachelor Nation icon, Courtney Robertson Preciado, and her husband, Humberto Preciado! You certainly know Courtney as the winner of season 16 of The Bachelor (and the New York Times Bestselling Author of her subsequent tell-all, "I Didn't Come Here To Make Friends") and we're thrilled Humberto agreed t…
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Navigating Romance When You Have Anxiety, OCD Or Depression With Allison Raskin
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Today's guest, Allison Raskin, is a New York Times best selling author and mental health advocate. Her 3rd and latest book, “Overthinking About You: Navigating Romantic Relationships When You Have Anxiety, OCD, and/or Depression” just came out on Tuesday (May 3). When we polled you, our Shandies, over on Instagram about this topic, the floodgates o…
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I Think I'm In Love With My Platonic Life Partner—Help!
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It's Caller Day! Today's lovely caller, Kelsey, introduces us to a popular new term (Platonic Life Partner, or "PLP"), redefining what one's "soulmate" might look like. But Kelsey also has quite the conundrum: she has developed romantic feelings for her PLP. Are these feelings real and should she act on them, even at the risk of the special platoni…
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Q&A! Fantasize On, Being The Other Woman, & When You Can't Find A Great Person Attractive
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It's Q&A time! We're back, answering YOUR burning questions! Is it wrong to fantasize about other people if you're in a committed and happy partnership? If you find someone great but just can't come to find them attractive, is that worth ending things over? And just how important does Shandy find sleep compatibility? Come join us in our living room…
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LOVE FEST! Dave Neal & Tasha Courtney On Grand Gestures & Being Friends First
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It's Love Fest time! 🎉 Today's couple has been hotly requested for so many months, it's about time we brought them into the Shandy fold for a double date! Dave Neal, standup comedian and host of the wildly popular Bachelor Nation News Youtube channel, and his fiancée, blogger Tasha Courtney, join us to chat. We learn about the long journey that led…
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Confessions of a Divorce Attorney ft. Nicole Sodoma
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Today's lovely guest, Nicole Sodoma, is a seasoned divorce attorney of over two decades and the managing principal at Sodoma Law, based in Charlotte NC. Her debut book, "Please Don't Say You're Sorry: An Empowering Perspective on Marriage, Separation, and Divorce from a Marriage-Loving Divorce Attorney" will be released on May 24. She has also been…
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His Words And His Actions Don't Align—Should I Reach Back Out?
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It's Caller Day! Today's call will likely be very relatable for those dating out there. Today we're joined by Lauren, a young single mom who knows what she wants and has been crystal clear in what she's looking for. However, the guy in question says one thing and does another. Is this a dealbreaker? And how much does "double dipping" affect things?…
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Q&A! When You're Annoyed By Your Partner's Hobby & How To Slide Into A Celeb's DMs
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It's Q&A time! We're back, answering YOUR burning questions! How should you proceed if you love your partner but not his very frequent, very loud hobby? Why do guys stop trying when they get the girl? And what are Shandy's thoughts on the woman proposing to the man? Come join us in our living room for the Shandy take! Thanks to our sponsors! - Go t…
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Bachelor Recap: Finale | Twists, Controversy, and Empathy... Oh My!
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Shandy is back with Bachelor Season 26 recaps! Today we're breaking down the grand finale. Thanks to our sponsors! - Go to https://www.apostrophe.com/SHANDY and use code SHANDY to get your first dermatology visit for only $5! - Go to https://www.fahertybrand.com and use code SHANDY for 20% off your Spring staples! - Go to https://www.magicspoon.com…
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Parasocial Relationships With Josh Peck
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Parasocial relationships are defined as one-sided relationships, where one person extends emotional energy, interest and time, and the other party, the persona, is completely unaware of the other’s existence. Have you ever wondered how the celebrity in this situation, or the "persona", feels about this dynamic? Today we're joined by accomplished ac…
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My Long Distance Relationship Has Gotten Rocky—Help!
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It's Caller Day! Today's is Andy's all-time favorite call. We're joined by Fiona, who is in a one year old relationship. As things have become long distance she finds herself and her partner fighting more than usual. However, the more questions we asked, the more we learned there's more to her story and her reservations. Listen on for the Shandy ta…
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Bachelor Recap: WTA + Ep 9 | The High-Wire Act That Is Overnights
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Shandy is back with Bachelor Season 26 recaps! Today we're breaking down Overnights. Thanks to our sponsors! - Go to https://www.feals.com/SHANDY to get 40% off your first 3 months of premium CBD delivered directly to your door! 0:00 - Housekeeping 2:53 - Women Tell All 4:31 - Cassidy 6:54 - Shanae 14:27 - Sarah 17:30 - Teddi 20:40 - Serene 22:33 -…
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Our Wedding Story, Part 2 (aka Wedding Q&A!)
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After Our Wedding Story episode, we were overwhelmed by follow-up questions. We asked if you wanted a Part 2 and you said yes! So, combining your emails, comments, DMs, and Instagram poll questions, here are our answers! Thanks to our sponsors! - Go to https://www.cozyearth.com and use code SHANDY for 35% off all bedding and loungewear! - Go to htt…
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Bachelor Recap: Episode 8 | Meta Language & Outdoorsy Lessons In Hometown Week
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Shandy is back with Bachelor Season 26 recaps! Today we're breaking down Hometown week. Thanks to our sponsors! - Go to https://www.apostrophe.com/SHANDY and use code SHANDY to get your first dermatology visit for only $5! - Go to https://www.talkspace.com and use code SHANDY to get $100 off your first month of therapy! - Go to https://www.squaresp…
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Q&A! Returning The Ring, My BF Misses His Ex's Family, And DWI = Dealbreaker?
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It's Q&A time! We're back, answering YOUR burning questions! Is there *ever* a case to be made for keeping the engagement ring after the relationship ends? Is a DWI an absolute dealbreaker, or should one focus instead on the honesty in revealing it? And is it cause for concern if your new boyfriend reveals he misses his ex's family? Come join us in…
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Bachelor Recap: Ep 7 | Couples "Therapy" And A Villain On The Side
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Shandy is back with Bachelor Season 26 recaps! Today we're breaking down episode7. Thanks to our sponsors! - Go to https://www.stance.com and use code SHANDY for 15% off your first purchase! - Go to https://www.thefab.co/shandy for 25% off Fabulous Premium! - Go to https://www.hellotushy.com/SHANDY for 10% off plus free shipping! - Go to https://ww…
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LOVE FEST! Krystal Nielson & Miles Bowles On Opposites Attracting & The Fun Of Parenting
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It's Love Fest time! 🎉 Today we're joined by one of Bachelor Nation's most iconic women, Krystal Nielson and her partner, Miles Bowles! You may remember Krystal from Arie's season of The Bachelor and season 5 of Bachelor In Paradise. We learn how Krystal and Miles balance each other out, how parenthood has changed their lifestyle, and of course, ho…
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Bachelor Recap: Ep 6 | Undesirable "Dates", Simmering Beef, & Marionette Strings
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Shandy is back with Bachelor Season 26 recaps! Today we're breaking down episode 6. Thanks to our sponsors! - Go to https://www.squarespace.com/SHANDY and use code SHANDY for 10% off your first website or domain! - Go to https://www.apostrophe.com/SHANDY and use code SHANDY to get your first dermatology visit for only $5! - Go to https://www.hellof…
