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A sassy show about SEX, self-love and sisterhood! Sex and intimacy aren't about your G-spot, they're about your ME Spot. What makes you feel sexy, desired and fulfilled? We're shining a light on all those things women want to talk about, like body image, intimacy, orgasms, boudoir shoots, hormones, all about "down there," and more. It's like having an OBGYN as your BFF! Hit subscribe and let's get real, Lady!
 
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Knowing our values is the key to knowing ourselves better, why we act the way we do and why we like the things we like…so what’s stopping us from using those values as a way to unlock our inner sexy? Think about it like this: when we know what we want, we can articulate that better to our partners, and while that obviously has benefits in the day t…
 
Over the last two episodes, we’ve spoken about the nasty family of sexual hiccups; the twisted sisters that are guilt, shame and regret. However, while each of these broads has the power to ruin your sex life and rob you of your inner sexy, the great thing is, as women, we already have something to combat them. That is, resilience. Women are built …
 
Regret is the Mama-Bear emotion of all our sexual hiccups, but in all honesty, she’s more two-headed hydra than anything else. If we really think about it - shame, guilt, embarrassment all boil down to one thing - the shoulda, woulda, couldas that we live with, and how they rob us of our inner sexy. Last week, we talked about the twisted sisters th…
 
We talk about a lot of salacious stuff in this podcast, but today, I want to take it all a step deeper. Into our minds, that is. Now, I know what you’re probably thinking: why is a gynaecologist talking about psychological bullshit? But hear me out, sister, because I see women beating themselves up in contrition way more than I see ovarian cysts, a…
 
Many of the great things in life come in threes: The Brontë sisters, the Hanson brothers, 3-ring circus…oh, and don’t forget about one of the most common sexual fantasies out there. That’s right, I’m talking about threesomes! While only 8% of women have actually reported having threesomes, about 87% of us have thought about it at some point, making…
 
If you’re over hearing about gratitude, you’re not alone. Much like turmeric and CBD oil, the word has been overused so much in the past few years that many of us have more than a touch of gratitude fatigue. That being said, there are a ton of studies that prove gratitude really can make a positive impact in our lives in general, from better eating…
 
Few things leave women as shaken as a genital herpes diagnosis, and it’s not hard to understand why. On top of the STI itself, the discovery of HSV2 often leads to a ton of uncomfortable questions. Where was it contracted? Could a partner have strayed? And perhaps the toughest of all: how do we tell our partners about the diagnosis? That being said…
 
When we hear the word ‘inertia’ most of our minds head straight to physics (that is, unless we’re thinking about how pretty the word sounds), but the truth is, inertia affects us way more than we realize, and it can have a massive impact on our inner sexy. In physics, ‘inertia’ refers to matter staying in its state until an external force stops it,…
 
I’ve often overheard women talking about gifting their friends vibrators for the holidays, but I’m of the mind that that’s not a great idea. Sex toys and tools are a little personal, so it’s probably best to avoid giving them to others, unless we’re going for a gag gift. When it comes to gifting sex tools to ourselves, however, that’s a different s…
 
Polyamory isn’t something often discussed in ‘proper’ social circles, but the topic doesn’t need to be salacious by any means. We’ve been trained to believe there’s something wrong with polyamory, but many of our reservations stem directly from misunderstanding. As with just about anything outside of our comfort zones, we’ve labeled it as ‘bad,’ no…
 
When we hear about celebrities having tantric sex (um, hello, Tom Hanks!) our minds tend to go straight to one understanding of what that means: 72 hours of wild, uninhibited, no-bathroom-breaks passion...but what if we’ve got that all wrong? The truth is, tantra is about way more than ‘just’ sex, and by understanding it in such narrow terms, we’re…
 
Most of us love vision boards. Who doesn’t enjoy cutting up pictures of things we love and slapping them on a pretty board? However, one of the biggest reasons we love them is because they give us hope. Having a roadmap of what we want gives us a break from agonizing over what we don’t. My question is, why aren’t we using these little tools to conj…
 
We tend to think that talking to the youth about sex increases the likelihood of them making bad choices, but the truth is, we're doing more damage by keeping them in the dark. If we're not talking to the younger generations about sex, someone else is, and there's no telling what they might be exposed to. The other benefit to being open and talking…
 
In my previous episode on painful intercourse, I spoke about the ‘front porch’ pain many ladies experience during sex, but for some women, that discomfort comes from deep within. As a result, those going through it tend to avoid deep penetration altogether, but girls, that just ain’t gonna cut it! Everyone deserves to enjoy sex, so it’s time to roo…
 
Painful intercourse isn’t a sexy topic, but it is a necessary one, and one we have to have if we want to stop it from messing with our bodies, our interpersonal relationships and our inner sexy. As many as 21% of all women have reported that they experience persistent pain during sex. However, while it’s good to know we’re not alone, that doesn’t m…
 
There’s a lot more to sex than penises, vaginas, tongues and buttholes...a lot, lot more. From breasts to knees and hairy armpits, if you can wedge a dick in it, someone’s got off with it (and yes, you read that right, I said armpit). Believe it or not, there are dozens of ways people enjoy each other’s bodies, and experience explosive, orgasmic pl…
 
For many heterosexual women, when we think about sex, the first thing that springs to mind is good old-fashioned penile-vaginal sex, but there are so many other ways to DO it, and oral sex is just one of those. However, for some reason, oral sex on women still feels a little taboo to talk about, and as a result, cunnlingus ends up a bit like camp f…
 
No matter how we were born or how we identify, one thing we all have in common is an asshole (we can also all be assholes, but that’s a podcast for another day). Another thing we have in common? Being able to have anal sex. While mainstream conversations about anal play are relatively new, the act itself has been happening for millennia. The only d…
 
Ah, the busy woman. She is all of us! And because she’s all of us, we can all relate to wanting to do something nice for ourselves, only to not have ‘the time’ to do it. Look, let’s face it: it’s a little tough to think about fitting in face masks and full-body exfoliation when we’re juggling work, a pandemic and a toddler who shit his pants in the…
 
Nipples, nipples everywhere: everybody has ‘em and we know they serve a physiological purpose. However, it turns out these little nubs have a spicier side, too! Done right, nipple play can be more than foreplay. In fact, it’s possible to have a full blown ORGASM from tantalizing our tatas. The question is, how do we do it right, and what has to hap…
 
Considering our boob-loving culture, it’s surprising that nipples are as underappreciated as they are. Everyone has ‘em, and everyone’s seen ‘em, but when it comes to knowing a ton about ‘em, we’re falling way short. Just like everything down south is often referred to as ‘the vagina,’ nipples, boobs and areolas are typically shoved into one catego…
 
Positive expectations feature big time in our culture, and sometimes, that’s great! Who doesn’t love believing that we’ll ultimately end up married to a handsome Prince Charming, have earth-shattering orgasms every time we have sex and live happily ever after? The only problem is, many of those expectations are only paving the way for disappointmen…
 
The G-spot has the power to get a lot of ladies hot under the collar...but not for the reasons we’re usually fed by porn, magazines and, well, men. For women who have struggled for years to ‘find’ their G-spot, the constant attention it gets can be downright infuriating. However, in light of just how many women have never experienced a G-spot orgas…
 
How in the world can we expect to experience earth-shattering orgasms if we don’t even know what we’re packing down below? Enter the conversation ladies everywhere need to have, but aren’t: vulvanology 101. The vulva and the vagina may share the same area code, but they are far from being one unit, and if we lump them into a general category, we’re…
 
The female anatomy is an ensemble cast, but because we’re such a vagina-centric society, we tend to refer to everything down there as ‘the vagina’, and baby, that just ain’t so! Look, it’s not our fault. We’ve been taught by a society who feels uncomfortable teaching about the female body in high school sex-ed, and that’s where most of our misconce…
 
Bean, butterbean, love button, the devil’s doorbell...the clitoris has been given a ton of rude names over the years, but not one of them even begins to describe the magnificence of what this organ truly is. In the history of sexual anatomy, no organ has been as demeaned and dismissed as the clitoris, and as a result, many women have no idea what’s…
 
There’s definitely something sexy about sending a lil’ erotic photo or video to your partner, BUT it’s not a VHS tape that you can just go and burn. Once it’s out there, in the ether, in the cloud, in the interwebs, there’s no going back. The last thing you need is even the slightest risk of a leak or worse, revenge porn. If you’re worried about yo…
 
I used to be under the impression that lingerie was a prerequisite for sexiness, but the more I think about it, the more it feels like a gimmick. Inner sexy - the kind that comes from what makes you you, is the BEST kind of sexy, and you don’t need lacy, Victoria’s Secret Angel-esque get-ups for that. That shit’s uncomfortable anyway... How we show…
 
Boudoir shoots are all over Pinterest, and for good reason: they’re sexy as hell! However, while many women are getting these shots done for a partner (which is A-okay, by the way!), what if we tapped into our own inner glow and got them done for ourselves? Having a boudoir shoot can feel daunting, but it’s also a great way to remind ourselves just…
 
Based on the media circus and intense scrutiny of the topic, it would seem that the most pressing issue we’re facing worldwide is the smell of the vulva. The truth is, the only ones who should have an opinion about vaginal odors are vagina owners. Let’s get one thing straight: the tang of our poons is NOT an issue. Honey, this is the scent the univ…
 
JLo, Halle Berry, Sharon Stone, Viola Davis, Padma Lakshmi, and Helen Mirren and all the fabulous older women in our lives prove that you can be over 50 and totally bangin’, vibrant, confident, and in control. Boring senior citizens? Nah...more like older and owning it! Gals under 50, take notes. For centuries, women have passed down the knowledge …
 
Hello, my sweet Remember the days your imagination came up with empowering scenarios that made you feel like a total badass, before adulthood came and zapped it all away? Today, we’re gonna go back there! As outlandish as some of our daydreams are, our ability to imagine is a really important tool for magnifying our sexy and exploring what we want.…
 
“The List”...you’ve probably heard about it, talked about it or even fantasized about it. It’s your freebie list of 5 people for a rendezvous, fling or encounter. Male, female, non-binary, old, young, whatever - if you were to meet anyone on this list, it would be on, no guilt, no take backs, no explanations. Maybe you fancy the Duke of Hastings hi…
 
When your urethra loses control of herself and urine shoots out at 150 miles per hour unprompted, you, like millions of other women, suffer from incontinence. Now, flooding yourself at the worst time is anything but sexy, but ladies it’s a thing, and we have to bust through the stigma! The good news is, when things get leaky down below (and I’m not…
 
We’ve all heard about the links between UTIs and sex, but just how does a hot night of passion turn into fiery loins of the not-so-sexy variety? Is there a way to veto nasty infections without foregoing getting nasty? UTIs have been the bane of sexually active women throughout the ages. Make no mistake, Daphne Bridgerton burned for the Duke of Hast…
 
With more emphasis (finally!) being placed on the female orgasm than ever before, squirting has become the in-thing, but the question remains: what is squirting? More importantly, how can we get our goods to gush, and how many women can get their fountains flowing, anyway? Unfortunately, many women still feel a lot of shame around this topic. Let’s…
 
When we hear the word ‘lube’, many of us are transported to a sexual experience in our 20s, where we or our partners reached for whatever was nearest. However, have we ever given much thought to why we use what, for where, and when? The truth is, vaginal lubrication isn’t something we think about. That is until it’s gone. As anyone who has had to d…
 
More and more women are deciding to give up sex for good, but is that good for us? Why would we want to quit in the first place, and are there any benefits to giving up, well, giving it up? When a sex symbol like Jane Fonda goes on the record about kicking sex like it’s a bad habit, it can be a little confusing for the rest of us. However, whether …
 
Relationships are a two-way street, we’re supposed to give and we receive, but what do you do if you’re doing all the giving? Emotionally, mentally and sexually, women often find themselves giving but not receiving, and we have thousands of years of patriarchal conditioning to blame for it. The good news is you can change this, and step-by-step, li…
 
Chin hair, neck hair, toe hairs, and nipple hairs - why do you grow hair in places you don’t want it, and what the heck can you do about it? As we get older, it seems like we lose hair from our heads and it goes elsewhere, often sprouting up almost overnight. A lot of us feel embarrassed about this hair growth, and it can make it hard for a gal to …
 
How do we normalize the nuisance that is hair loss, and find solutions to get the hair we all long for and deserve? In today’s episode, the first of a two-episode series, we’re going to talk about an issue that affects all kinds of women, why the heck we lose our hair, and strategies and treatments we can explore. Let’s face it, our culture views l…
 
According to 50 Shades of Grey, Bridgerton and Outlander, sex is always magical and perfect, but does this translate to real life, and can we separate sex fact from sex fiction? We all know that in the real world, sex can be awkward and nothing like what we see on TV, but that isn’t a bad thing! In this episode, I talk about how your favorite sexy …
 
How do you unlock badass health ownership, and stop letting “I can’t” damage your health? In this episode, you’re going to learn all about a brilliant technique that will help you solve just about any problem in your life. When it comes to taking care of our health, the issues run so much deeper than the problems you see and experience on the surfa…
 
When it comes to the food world, getting a Michelin Star is a huge accomplishment. When you’re the best of the best, you might even earn the highest honor: 3 stars. A 3 star restaurant means it is absolutely worth a special journey and boasts impeccably prepared cuisine. I don’t know about you, but that’s the level of precision and expertise I want…
 
Do you consider your sexual history spicy or bland? It probably comes as little surprise that the majority of women feel they’re stuck in a sort of Groundhog Day movie when it comes to their sex lives. This can lead to feelings of apathy and lack of fulfillment, and nobody wants that! That’s where the idea of NOVELTY comes into play. We may assume …
 
Did you all hear the story of this woman in her 80’s who got arrested for living out her dream of having sex in public? Talk about an adrenaline rush! While I’m not necessarily advocating for such a high level of risk, this is one instance where a quickie is warranted so you don’t get caught! There are definitely reasons you may gravitate towards f…
 
We’ve all eaten food we didn’t particularly like before because we didn’t want to be rude to whoever prepared it. Sometimes sex can be the same way. We may give it up just to make our partner happy even if we really aren’t in the mood. While there’s nothing wrong with this every once and a while, it’s important to communicate your needs too. Women …
 
Do you remember TV dinners? I used to love popping a tray in the microwave, settling down in front of the television for my favorite show, and enjoying my little serving of pasta and a brownie or whatever it was. It was a table setting for one, something I could enjoy aaalllll by myself. You might be saying, “What does this have to do with anything…
 
Close your eyes and picture the most mouthwatering, delicious meal you’ve ever tasted... Now picture the worst meal you’ve ever had. Can you do the same with your sexual experiences? Believe it or not, sex and food are closely related. Both experiences activate our brains in similar ways and can be sources of immense pleasure. On the other hand, bo…
 
It can be pretty easy to get bogged down by all the negatives around us (especially these days!). This “woe is me” mentality is pervasive, but who is it really serving? If you constantly see yourself as a victim, that’s all you’ll ever be. Changing your internal monologue can be tough, but it is SO worth it. Whenever I start to throw myself a pity …
 
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