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Welcome to The Butterfly Nation, an intense hour examining the real-life experiences of the spouses and partners of po-n addicts and/or sex addicts...the forgotten survivors of the sex industry. Join Alison and Sandy, both ex-wives of sex addicts and both Certified Mindful Habit Coaches, as they weave through the complex world of sex addiction from the partner's perspective. With a focus on education and empowerment, they will use their own experiences combined with science, psychology, stat ...
 
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Carol the Coach is talking with Mathew and Joanna Raabsmith who work together helping couples and individuals find healing and transformation when sexual betrayal occurs. Today, they will share their own story of healing and restoration from the damage of addiction and betrayal in their marriage. They seek to use their training and experience to em…
 
During phase two of APSATS trauma model, the SA, and often times the partner herself may ask “Why can’t I/she get over it” or “why are we stuck and not moving forward”? When working with couples it is essential that the SA learn As much information as he can about betrayal trauma. And part of that information is not only about the timing and the pa…
 
Carol the Coach is interviewing Bonny Burns and her mission is to help couples re-engage in sexual intimacy after sexual addiction. It is easy for couples to feel defeated. Usually couples experience sexuality at different levels, Listen as Bonny gives some tips to restore the trust and communication that a couple needs to build safety.…
 
One of the greatest casualties to sexual addiction is when a partner has to deal with triggers. Dorit Reichental has developed a Trigger Busters technique that sex addicts can use with their partners to assist in managing the triggers. Listen as she and Carol the Coach dialogue about how a husband can be the support she needs to quiet the triggers!…
 
Carol the Coach will be interviewing Dan and Angie Andrew who want the community to understand the difference between sobriety and true recovery. They believe that the coupleship with thrive when both people do their work and support each other's recovery. They will discuss the tools for recovery that keep the lines of communication open and promot…
 
Today Carol the Coach will be interviewing James Annear of Core Relationship Recovery who has researched the attachment styles of betrayed partners and has found extreme wounding that effects deep trust and intimacy. Today, he will be talking about the 4 attachment styles and how they are effected when "heart wounding" occurs.…
 
Carol the Coach will be interviewing Dan Drake and Janice Caudill on their new book, Full Disclosure: How To Share The Truth After Sexual Betrayal. They recognize that doing a full disclosure can be both daunting and difficult, so they will be talking about their step by step approach they have created in their new workbooks. They have participated…
 
Carol the Coach will be interviewing Marie Kriebs an expert in intimacy disorders, partner betrayal and vulnerability. As an APSATS trained therapist, she believes it is important to educate betrayed partners about healthy intimacy and the importance of personal growth and self awareness. She will be sharing some of the myths about vulnerability an…
 
Listen as Carol the Coach interviews Catherine Etherington who is a part of the Naked Truth Project about some new programing that is coming out that will help you and the church know how to support addicts, partners and families all over the world! They have set up a P Word Conference to stream critical information to help set up programming to ke…
 
Sex addicts who knowingly have sex with their spouses while having unprotected sex with others are violating their spouses by undermining her self-determination over her body. When the partner of the SA has no idea she's been "having sex" with her spouse's sex workers, a crime has been committed. Listen as Carol the Coach interviews Alex Katehakis,…
 
Today, Carol the Coach is interviewing Laura Jenkins and Sherri Payne, who have supported the APSATS team to help women who are hurting and alone. They would like to share their story of the betrayal they experienced in their marriages over many years, how Ithey said “no more”, and overcame their fears to rebuild a life that was shattered. You may …
 
Partner betrayal is devestating and you need the skills to get through it. Listen as Carol the Coach gives you tips on how to work through the pain! Today, Joanna Raabsmith is going to be talking about how she empowerw partners as their spouses struggle with sex addiction, infedelity and betrayal. When partners find out about the discovery, they ty…
 
Grief is a step that many many betrayed partners miss in the aftermath of Discovery day. However, it's vital in the healing process. It is in the 2nd phase of the Multidimensional Partner Trauma Model. It matters. Today, Lyschel Burket is going to talk about why grief is so important to the mind, body and spirit and how to effectively work through …
 
Today, Carol the Coach is talking with trauma specialist Dr. Diane Hovey who believes that after the disclosures, the endless questions, river of tears, and tsunami of shame, the pain remains. The journey to uncover the roots of what went wrong fades in and out of the mists of reality. Some resign. Others encounter a shift in perspective that no lo…
 
Today, Carol the Coach and Dr. Jake Porter will be talking about the Empathy Certification that is teaching Clinicians and Coaches how to encorporate empathy skills in early couples recovery work. ERCEM (Early Recovery Couples Empathy Model), is a premier relational training and certification that navigates professionals how to work through sexual …
 
When you are betrayed by someone you trust, your whole world is turned upside down. Dr. Crystal Hollenbeck is going to discuss the devastating impact betrayal has on every part of your person and how to survive one day at a time. She will share how broken trust can make you question your beliefs about your spouse, friends, yourself, your life, and …
 
Karen and John Rellos will be sharing a community they are building for couples who are recovering from sex addiction and partner betrayal. They recognize the need for couples to have a safe community to "walk beside" other couples on this very bumpy messy road of healing. They want to provide a membership that fosters ongoing support in a safe pri…
 
Today Carol the Coach will be interviewing a recovery coach who has created a unique program for betrayed wives. He explains that after a few years in The Silent Addiction as a sex addiction recovery coach, and also working as a workshp counselor for Be Broken and their Gateway to Freedom Weekend Workships for sex addicts, my heart has been burdene…
 
People will tell you that "it's only. looking at images." But we know that looking at adult images can take anyone down and today Carol the Coach will be interviewing Joshua Shea who is a recovering ponography addict who made the error of engaging a teenage girl in an online chatroom for which he was arrested and served 6 months in jail. Joshua say…
 
Validation is so important to creating intimacy and connection. Often the validation piece is the hardest part for people to “get”. This process helps learners understand how and why it is so important and just how to do it. The step by step process walks them through it easily. Today, Carol the Coach will be interviewing APSATS therapist, Stacey S…
 
Emotional abuse can have devestating affects on partners. They are so vulnerable and their self esteem is already fragile from betrayal and then they experience the emotional abuse and they question theirselves and their reality. Raquel Custer is currently a Bloom for Women betrayal trauma coach at Addo Recovery. She is a certified life coach speci…
 
Riana Milne knows that 9 out of 10 women struggle in life and love. Partner betrayal results in such a trauma wounding that leaves you wondering if you will ever be able to trust him again. And if he continues to be self-absorbed and self-interested leabing empathy behind you may want to assess for narcissistic personality disorder. Today Riana dis…
 
Male partners seem to face a special circumstance in their betrayal because there are less resources available and the fight an extra layer of shame because it effects their masculinity. Carol the Coach will be interviewing Gary Ownes who is a male spouse of a female sex addict. He has written a book to help other men who find themsellves in the ba…
 
Today, Carol the Coach interviews Rebecca Ray wh wants to talk about the dissociative process that can affect partners due to on-going stress, abuse, and psychological terror. This disorder causes disruptions or breakdowns in memory, awareness, identity and or perception and she wants are listeners to know that they CAN live normal lives when they …
 
If you want to learn from the Master....we have an expert on post traumatic growth on the show to help you with betrayal and other forms of trauma. Today Carol the Coach is interviewing Dr. Dayton who has been a guest expert on NBC, CNN, MSNBC, Montel, Rikki Lake, John Walsh, and Geraldo. She is the author of 15 books including Neuropsychodrama in …
 
Today Carol the Coach will be interviewing Matthew, who will be sharing about his work helping men who have committed betrayal and/or who struggle with unwanted sexual behavior restore their lives and relationships. He and his wife Joanna, have been working in the field of betrayal/addiction recovery for over 5 years helping couples rebuild what wa…
 
Betrayal trauma creates a pain that has been described as worse than the death of a loved one. Carol the Coach will be interviewing Amanda Elliott Asproni who wants to help betrayed partners work through the trauma. Clients who come into counseling with betrayal trauma alongside untreated complex trauma/PTSD struggle with the healing process in nua…
 
During the last year, all of our lives have changed drastically. While we now have more access to therapy and recovery groups than ever thanks to online platforms and Telehealth, we are also facing isolation and stressors that can severely derail or escalate addiction and trauma. Recovery in a post pandemic world takes new levels of commitment, but…
 
There are many types of residential, intensive and individual programs designed to help the addict, but today, Carol the Coach will be interviewing Timothy Lee, who founded the New York Pathways Relationship Restoration Program. We are featuring this program because it works from a partner sensitive approach in that it includes loooking at partner …
 
Today Carol the Coach is interviewing Jenni Rochelle who has created a coaching program for women healing from betrayal trauma. It’s a six-month, private coaching program for women who are in the later stages of healing and are ready to reclaim and rediscover themselves. The website is www.jennirochelle.com/beautyafterbetrayal…
 
Carol's guest was unable to appear so she talked about her new book "Unleashing Your Power" and how that book can move you through the 3 stages of partner betrayal. As you listen to the show, ask yourself what you can do to detach from the pain and grow from the inner strength that you have inside.By Betrayal Recovery Radio
 
Returning to a healthy sexual relationship is complex and often times partners want to know that their spouse will not be triggered by resuming a sexual relationship. Partners do not want to be compared to unhealthy sexual images or experiences and wish they could "know" what their husband is thinking while they are being intimate. Today, Carol the…
 
Lots of professionals are finding brainspotting an efffective technique to process trauma. Today, Carol the Coach is interviewing Julie StOnges who took the training and has found it is absolutely the quickest way to help children and people who have ADHD. She also believes it can help with partner betrayal. She has been tracking clients progress a…
 
There are many great forms of therapy out there today to help partners and sex addicts process betrayal, trauma, recovery, and other important issues for healing.Today, Mike Vaugn shares with partners, a powerful type of therapy that can connect addicts to the pain that may have contributed to their addiction and deceit. One of the more powerful ty…
 
Sex Addiction can fatally wound a marriage relationhsip. Dr. Crystal Hollenbeck is an APSATS therapist and helps marriages move from a place of woundedness to a place of healing. She conducts Three Day Marriage Intensives for couples who have a consistent recovery path with Sex Addiction Recovery and Betrayal Trauma Recovery, and are ready to move …
 
Today, Carol the Coach is interviewing Riana Milne who is a relationship expert and personal life coach who has studied relationhip trauma and she wants to go over the 10 adverse childhood events that sabotages relationships. Many partners have had childhood trauma and would like to understand what they have experienced and what they need to do to …
 
Peggy Matheson has created a coloring book that will bring about serenity. She drew a few sketches when she was a young woman, but had such a love for the performing arts that drawing quickly fell by the way side. Earning a BFA in Music Dance Theater from Brigham Young University was a jumping off point that punctuated years of performances on stag…
 
The importance of sex in human relationships, especially with our spouse, is well known to us as a vital element in developing and maintaining a healthy marriage and relationship. Thus, the betrayal from a loved one, related sexual affairs, brings traumatic experiences for many. It would not surprise to say that the relationship between sexual comp…
 
Helping couples heal is an APSATS misssion. Today, Carol the Coach interviews Clinton and Charity Munoz, who knows how difficult it is to restore the relationship after sexual addiction recovery has been initiated. want to talk about how important individual help is to get first, what their roles are in the restoration process. They believe in the …
 
Listen as Carol interviews Liza Young on Toxicity. Liza is a therapist with over 15 years of experience in helping people overcome life's most difficult situations. Liza has developed an online video course called Toxic Free Relationship. This course is designed to help you identify if your relationship is toxic, and what to do about it. She provid…
 
Today, Carol the Coach will be interviewing Debby Flanagan who has more than 25 years of ministry experience helping women find healing from sexual and love addiction and trauma. As a survivor, she has a special connection with women who have experienced childhood sexual abuse. Debby works closely with women in recognizing areas of codependency and…
 
Today, Carol the Coach interviews expert Sarah Morales who is an expert and teaches courses on "gaslighting." Gaslighting can happen when an addict purposefully denies reality and projects that that there is something wrong with you for believing that there is something wrong wiith him. It can leave you feeling shaky and confused and it can make yo…
 
Today, Carol the Coach will be interviewing Lyschel Burket who is a certified professional coach who would love to spend some time unpacking a common tool used by couples as they step into the space of healing and rebuilding. The tool is commonly used as a check in tool. Which means they use this tool as guardrails to their time in order to create …
 
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