Best JLML Press Podcasts (2023)

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Respectful Parenting: Janet Lansbury Unruffled

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How to be Strong Enough to Make the Really Big Changes 28:20

7m ago28:20

28:20

Our young kids are adaptable, so it's always possible for us to change routines, rules, and behavior patterns that we decide are no longer beneficial for us or them. Problem is, our kids are bound to object— loudly, vociferously, perhaps relentlessly—when these changes aren't their idea (which they seldom are). Our new plan may be met with whining,…

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Respectful Parenting: Janet Lansbury Unruffled

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Struggles with Independent Play 36:54

7d ago36:54

36:54

Self-directed play is a gift that keeps giving with profound benefits for every aspect of our children's development. As an added bonus, nurturing our child's ability to self-entertain affords us the occasional much-deserved break. So, cultivating independent play and establishing it as a habit is well worth the effort. Unfortunately, no matter how…

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Respectful Parenting: Janet Lansbury Unruffled

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Mean Words, Aggressive Behavior, Stalling, and Other Signs Kids Need Our Help 36:37

14d ago36:37

36:37

Janet responds to several messages from parents who feel stumped as to how to respond effectively to their children's behaviors. A 4-year-old has been lashing out at his mom and schoolmates. A kindergartner calls her brother "stupid.” Another kindergartner can't pull herself together to get to school on time without her mother doing 95% of the work…

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Respectful Parenting: Janet Lansbury Unruffled

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Meltdowns That Keep Happening, Even When We're Doing Everything Right 25:55

21d ago25:55

25:55

A parent writes that she's feeling helpless and desperate about her 3-year-old's frequent, intense meltdowns, which sometimes last up to an hour. This mom says they usually "relate to control and power struggles where he tells me or my husband to do something." And although she remains calm, responds with empathetic words, assures him that it's oka…

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Respectful Parenting: Janet Lansbury Unruffled

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Raising Motivated, Self-Confident, Less Stressed Kids in an Age of Anxiety (with Dr. William Stixrud) 48:04

28d ago48:04

48:04

Janet’s guest is Dr. William Stixrud, a clinical neuropsychologist and co-author of The Self-Driven Child: The Science and Sense of Giving Your Kids More Control Over Their Lives. Bill Stixrud's decades of experience counseling children and their parents have led to conclusions that complement and support Janet's own parenting philosophy, especiall…

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Respectful Parenting: Janet Lansbury Unruffled

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How to Connect with Your Upset Child, Even When There's More Than One 19:07

1M ago19:07

19:07

Janet responds to a parent with a toddler and four-year-old who struggles to connect with her kids individually, and neither reacts well when the other is getting mom’s attention. For instance, she says when she tries to give her older son some lap time, “my 18-month-old clearly gets jealous and starts squealing, attempting to climb on me, hitting …

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Respectful Parenting: Janet Lansbury Unruffled

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Problems with Punishments (Described by a Parent Who Used Them) with Michelle Kenney 31:08

1M ago31:08

31:08

As a teacher, Michelle Kenney used punishments and rewards to motivate and manage children's behavior in her classroom. Then she became a mom. When her second daughter was born, her first child began exhibiting the typical behavior of an older, displaced child. She talked back, threw tantrums, and at one point became dangerously rough with her litt…

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Respectful Parenting: Janet Lansbury Unruffled

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Teaching Kids About Personal Space 21:39

2M ago21:39

21:39

Toddlers and preschoolers are driven to learn everything about their world, and they are particularly intrigued by the people in it: peers, family members, kids, grown-ups, and most of all their parents. A key aspect of their socialization is learning about personal boundaries, understanding how to assert theirs and respect those of others. They ne…

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Respectful Parenting: Janet Lansbury Unruffled

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Fears Around Starting School 19:51

2M ago19:51

19:51

A parent writes that her 5-year-old is afraid to start kindergarten. Though she’s sympathetic that this is a big transition for her son, as he’s never been cared for by anyone but his grandparents or a cousin, she’s recovering from breast cancer and also has a two-year-old, so she needs this to work. While she and her husband both try to validate h…

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Respectful Parenting: Janet Lansbury Unruffled

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Parent Traps 23:26

2M ago23:26

23:26

Kids seem to have a sixth sense when it comes to detecting our vulnerabilities as parents. And as adept learners and explorers, they can't help but keep pressing the buttons they discover in us. It can be easy for us to get stuck in an uncomfortable, unproductive cycle. Janet shares two recent interactions she's had with friends who are concerned a…

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Respectful Parenting: Janet Lansbury Unruffled

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Healing Our Perfectionism (with Emma Nadler) 39:02

2M ago39:02

39:02

Emma Nadler is a psychotherapist, author, and parent whose life was changed forever when doctors informed her that her second child, Eden, had a rare genetic condition. As she became familiar with the complexities of her daughter’s diagnosis, Emma had to confront her preconceptions of motherhood, self-judgment, and especially her tendency toward pe…

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Respectful Parenting: Janet Lansbury Unruffled

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What Science Says About Respectful Parenting (with Anya Dunham, PhD) 38:19

3M ago38:19

38:19

When scientist Anya Dunham was expecting her first baby, she decided to take a deep dive into the science behind various parenting techniques and philosophies. She was particularly drawn to the ideas Janet shares from the work of Magda Gerber and Emmi Pikler, because they complemented her own intuition. Anya joins Janet to discuss her research, how…

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Respectful Parenting: Janet Lansbury Unruffled

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Our Child Won't Listen 16:45

3M ago16:45

16:45

The parent of a 4-year-old says he and his partner “have done the best we can to follow the principles of positive parenting,” but their boy has been refusing to follow instructions and often seems to ignore them entirely. His behavior is unsafe around their toddler and newborn, so this couple is struggling to remain calm and respectful. Janet offe…

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Respectful Parenting: Janet Lansbury Unruffled

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When Our Kids Reject Us (A Step-By-Step Response) 35:03

3M ago35:03

35:03

A single mom writes that her spirited five-year-old “has found a new voice and physicality” lately, calling her names, hitting, and taunting her “to try to get a rise." This mom attempts to remain unruffled and contain her anger and sadness during these episodes, but she's wondering if her controlled response is making matters worse. Janet offers s…

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Respectful Parenting: Janet Lansbury Unruffled

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How To Help a Frustrated Child 20:07

3M ago20:07

20:07

It’s common for young children to get frustrated as they're practicing and mastering new skills. As loving parents, it can be challenging to resist our urge to quell these feelings. We might try to talk our kids out of their frustration, or even complete the task ourselves. In this episode of Unruffled, Janet advises a mom who writes that her other…

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Respectful Parenting: Janet Lansbury Unruffled

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Mental Health Starts in Infancy (with Dr. Angela Fisher-Solomon) 37:10

4M ago37:10

37:10

“I think families and particularly parents shy away from the term infant mental health. They think, Oh my goodness, does that mean that something is ‘wrong’ with my baby? And it does not mean that at all.” Janet’s guest is Dr. Angela Fisher-Solomon, an Infant Developmental Psychologist and RIE Associate with over 20 years of national and internatio…

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Respectful Parenting: Janet Lansbury Unruffled

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Our Fears as Parents - Real and Imagined (with Dr. Tina Payne Bryson) 44:44

4M ago44:44

44:44

Becoming a parent changes us. The intense love we feel for our children makes us vulnerable to elements of their lives we don't control. Protective instincts are activated in us that we might never have known we had. From the time our babies are born, we're faced with a multitude of decisions about what we allow them to experience. Naturally, we wa…

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Respectful Parenting: Janet Lansbury Unruffled

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Let Kids Choose... Except When They Can't 26:58

4M ago26:58

26:58

As parents and caregivers, most of us know that it's a good idea to let our kids make choices. Offering choice is one of the ways we demonstrate respect for children as competent people. Making appropriate choices encourages them to be decision-makers and problem solvers, helps to foster a sense of autonomy, agency and healthy control in their worl…

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Respectful Parenting: Janet Lansbury Unruffled

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Raising Emotional Intelligence and Resilience for a Meaningful Life (with Susan David) 41:27

4M ago41:27

41:27

In this encore episode (from the height of the Covid pandemic): Psychologist, author, and TED Talk superstar Susan David joins Janet to discuss how parents can nurture their children’s capacity to process difficult emotions, thoughts, and experiences. “Discomfort is the price of admission to a meaningful life,” she says, but we can help our childre…

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Respectful Parenting: Janet Lansbury Unruffled

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What To Do About Embarrassing, Troubling, or Crazy-Making Things Our Kids Say 23:28

4M ago23:28

23:28

Children are wonderfully honest about what they’re feeling and thinking, and how they view the world around them. When they feel safe with us, they tend to lead from the heart, without filters. That can inspire some eye-opening and entertaining conversations! What happens, though, when our child openly makes observations or asks questions about ano…

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Respectful Parenting: Janet Lansbury Unruffled

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It's Not Too Late 22:27

5M ago22:27

22:27

Thoughtful parents write to Janet each week sharing concerns about relational dynamics they regret creating with their children. "Is it too late?" they ask. Janet's reply: "Never." In this encore episode, Janet responds to an email from the parent of three kids (12, 9, and 3) who has just recently found Unruffled. She writes: “Your methods and insi…

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Respectful Parenting: Janet Lansbury Unruffled

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The Science of Intimacy With Our Kids (With Dr. Taniesha Burke) 35:46

5M ago35:46

35:46

Creating intimate bonds with our children is the primary parenting goal for most of us, and there are enormous benefits. Our kids are far more cooperative when they're regularly reminded that we see and accept them. The mutual trust we foster creates a sense of safety that helps our kids stay more grounded and self-regulated, so there won't be as m…

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Respectful Parenting: Janet Lansbury Unruffled

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Getting Real With How We Feel (With Elisabeth Corey) 44:10

5M ago44:10

44:10

“When we understand the reasons we react to our children in the way we do, we can begin to change the way we parent.” Janet welcomes a return visit from trauma survivor Elisabeth Corey, who suffered throughout childhood and her teens from severe physical, sexual, and emotional abuse. As an adult, that horrific period of her life was wiped from her …

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Respectful Parenting: Janet Lansbury Unruffled

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Words That Get in Our Way 16:55

5M ago16:55

16:55

Janet frequently advises us not to focus on trying to say the "right" words when we’re engaging with our kids. Why? Because regardless of the words we’re using, our children usually sense what we are feeling and how we are perceiving them moment to moment. So, generally, memorized scripts or phrases aren’t going to be as important as our true feeli…

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Respectful Parenting: Janet Lansbury Unruffled

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It Works! Parents Report Powerful Benefits From Allowing Kids' Feelings 23:18

6M ago23:18

23:18

Allowing our children to vent their feelings, encouraging and even welcoming them however they are expressed (and not taking it personally!), it is not easy at first. It is a practice that requires taking our head and then our heart into a place where we can calm ourselves enough to genuinely listen, and accept with compassion rather than judgment.…

Podcasts Worth a Listen

JLML Press Podcasts

Podcasts Worth a Listen

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Respectful Parenting: Janet Lansbury Unruffled

JLML Press

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How to be Strong Enough to Make the Really Big Changes 28:20

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Struggles with Independent Play 36:54

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Mean Words, Aggressive Behavior, Stalling, and Other Signs Kids Need Our Help 36:37

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Meltdowns That Keep Happening, Even When We're Doing Everything Right 25:55

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Raising Motivated, Self-Confident, Less Stressed Kids in an Age of Anxiety (with Dr. William Stixrud) 48:04

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How to Connect with Your Upset Child, Even When There's More Than One 19:07

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Problems with Punishments (Described by a Parent Who Used Them) with Michelle Kenney 31:08

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Teaching Kids About Personal Space 21:39

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Fears Around Starting School 19:51

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Parent Traps 23:26

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Healing Our Perfectionism (with Emma Nadler) 39:02

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What Science Says About Respectful Parenting (with Anya Dunham, PhD) 38:19

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Our Child Won't Listen 16:45

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When Our Kids Reject Us (A Step-By-Step Response) 35:03

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How To Help a Frustrated Child 20:07

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Mental Health Starts in Infancy (with Dr. Angela Fisher-Solomon) 37:10

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Our Fears as Parents - Real and Imagined (with Dr. Tina Payne Bryson) 44:44

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Let Kids Choose... Except When They Can't 26:58

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Raising Emotional Intelligence and Resilience for a Meaningful Life (with Susan David) 41:27

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What To Do About Embarrassing, Troubling, or Crazy-Making Things Our Kids Say 23:28

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It's Not Too Late 22:27

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The Science of Intimacy With Our Kids (With Dr. Taniesha Burke) 35:46

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Getting Real With How We Feel (With Elisabeth Corey) 44:10

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Words That Get in Our Way 16:55

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It Works! Parents Report Powerful Benefits From Allowing Kids' Feelings 23:18

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